I don't know what to do..very self conciouse..????PLZ HELP!?

Question

I sometimes wish that I had a boyfriend...Ive only had one so far..and I just turned 17 not long ago...I have a problem tho..I HATE MY BODY...I know everyone says they do..but me, I am only like 95 pounds, 5 foot-close to 5 foot 1, I am pretty I think, I have some acne scars on my back which I really hate although most people do have them...I just hate the size I am and I hate being short...Im very tiney...I have been trying to change things about myself that I don't like and I just fail so I feel very bad about myself all the time and am constantly comparing myself to others...People say just be happy with who you are, but thats so impossible as I have tried and just can't be happy with myself..what can I do???My mom says I am perfect just the way I am and am still growing taller and can get alot of boys if I wanted..I don't know tho... I am just very self conciouse...What can I do...???? I hate looking more like a 14 year old :(

Answer 1

Anyone ever tell you "you'll appreciate it one day"? Because if they did they're right. Some of the most sucessful women I know are short. And though a lot of girls your age might be bigger, just think about how fat and gross they will be after they start drinking beer at college, and you will get more normal looking. I didn't get boobs and start filling out until I was like 19. You just gotta shake what yo mama gave ya. One thing I've learned about guys, they are attracted to confident women. If you grew 5 inches taller and got a boyfriend it wouldn't be because you were taller, it would probably be because you became confident about your body. Own what you got. And think... if you are 17 and look like you're 14 imagine how cool that will be when you're 50 and look like you're 47? Yeahhhh that doesn't mean much to you now but it will. I can relate to the way you're feeling right now and I can tell you from experience that it will get better once you change your outlook. My boyfriend loves that I'm tiny and we can sit back and make fun of large women who look like linebackers. Chill out.

Answer 2

Thats so weird that I came across your question because I thought I was the only one in this type of situation. I used to put myself down all the time about the way I looked and though my appearance hasnt changed much, Ive learned to stop putting myself down and appreciating all the good things that I am able to recognize about myself. And Im not just talking about physical characteristics, I mean personality traits as well. If you start to build your self-confidence up in those areas- its really a good start. I too am somewhere between 5' and 5'1'', around 90-95 lbs and a little bit older than you. I feel like Ive been this size forever. I know all that 'Love yourself for who you are' stuff doesnt always work but I hope it eases your mind a bit to know that youre not the only one with this problem. Even when I eat excessively, I still dont seem to see any drastic results. If all else fails, I think there are some type of like organic growth hormone pills that you can probably pick up at a GNC or a store like that. Ive been meaning to but I havent gotten any specific names so Im not exactly sure what to look for. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I'm 22 and some people think I'm 14. Mostly because my face looks young, I don't wear make-up, and I'm only 5'3".

You can try dressing a bit older to help with your situation. Try dress pants paired with high heels. This will give you a business type look and the heels will help with your height. Wearing your hair up will elongate your neck, making you appear taller. Also try pinstripes to lengthen your body. If you're on the slim side, for dresses and shirts you can try the faux wrap or an actual wrap, this will create curves, if you're lacking in this area.


Just so you know...I have had 2 boyfriends my entire life. 1 when I was 14 which lasted 2 months and 1 that I met a couple of years ago who I'm married to now. I wasn't ugly. I just never smiled and had no confidence so guys never looked at me. They always went for the girls that were easy, wore padded bras and stuck their chests out. So be glad. I had a "friend" once, she was easy and one of my brothers friends never like her. His answer was because she was a used piece of meat. She didn't sleep around (religious background), but she flirted with every guy she could see. So be glad that you haven't dated that many and that guys aren't looking at you for that reason.

Answer 4

self confidence is the sexyiest thing in the world. You need to accept who you are and what you are. Find the good in your and express that. Then heads will turn.

Besides there is nothing wrong with looking young. You may actually find out you like it.

When I was a teenager, I didn't look 16 or 17, I always looked 13 or 14. Now that I am 32 and I get carded for EVERYTHING and my 20 year old friends don't I laugh. its a great feeling.

Just you have to love yourself.

Answer 5

First of all just because you are short doesn't mean you are ugly, i personally think short girls are cute. And we all have things about ourselves that we don't like. Stop makin ur height such a big issue, you are 17 you probably stopped growing at around 15 and you need to get over it and realize there's nothing wrong with being a short girl.

Answer 6

You need to find some people that you can idolize that are smaller. Whether it is movie stars or entrepenuers you need to find some role models and see how great they have become despite their body.
The greatest British champion against slavery was only 5 foot tall (William Wilberforce a great man).

So stop WHINING.. cause whining WILL defeat you. Start READING BOOKS.

Answer 7

First relax - what you are going through is normal. Humans are social creatures and whether we admit it or not we all compare ourselves to others. Next begin to build your image of who or what you want to be - you will find by deciding on your career or future life occupation your sense of style friend, and relationships will change - you are going to need to learn to love yourself - find a role model of someone that is like you but better (you set the standards of who that person is)
Then start working to be better than that role model - the boys, beaut etc... will fall into place once you start working on getting to where you want to be

Answer 8

well your mom has told you the best thing just be happy dont worrie about what others think of you that just creates stress and someone of your age dont need that right now believe me ive been there and i did what others told me just be happy with who i am god made you that way for a reason. you'll find out that reason later in life i promise. but until then just hang in there and be happy. good luck

Answer 9

thats ok. its good looking like a 14 yr. old. when u get old like 100 then ull want to look young. i have an 18 yr old brother and he is short and looks like a 6th grader. in fact he even wears clothes that he wore in 6th grade.