2007-03-22 04:01:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd like to say yes having been in one, but the truth is, it's too difficult and can be stressful. Best to be with someone close by, it's easier.
Now, given what I just said, I have heard of some working, although the percentage is rather low.
2007-03-22 04:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, there are two major challnges for a long distance relationship.
1) You need to have a lot of trust. When you're not physically together, you need to be sure the other one won't be cheating on you. If there's doubt, the jealousy will kill you (or the relationship) in the end.
2) You need a solution on the distance problem on the long term. Basically, you need to accept from the beginning that sooner or later at least one of the two needs to move. That's usually the problem. When one of the two leaves his country, he has to give up family, friends, work,... basically everything and start from scratch.
I dated a guy for 4 years and we loved each other to death. Love, trust,... was not a problem. While everybody told us the distance was too big and would kill us in the end, we were sure we loved each other strong enough to overcome that problem. But in the end, neither one of us would/could leave his country and we just had to take the rational decision to end it.
So... yes it is possible... but very difficult. Make sure you talk it through, think about all the possibilities, issues and consequences and then take then decision to go for it. 100% or not. Good luck!
2007-03-22 12:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I had a two year long distance relationship and now I've been married to her for 7 years. It's tough, and it takes a ton of work and TRUST, also it helps to know the plan, we knew we were planning on marriage so it made it easier it wasn't like we went into thinking the LD would be permanent, if you can see the goal of say in 2 or 3 years we'll be together then it makes it better.
2007-03-22 11:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by D. Carmichael 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why not. With mine relationship, living and working together, I sometimes long for some distance between the two us. On the other hand, what have you got to keep you here? The way I look at it I figure I can be just as much of a failure here as I can in southern California, and at least the weather is better out there. Its not like you can't take your dog with you.
2007-03-22 11:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think they can, but it depends entirely on honesty and how far away your boy/girlfriend is and for how long. I mean is it just a "see you when I can" kind of thing or do you guys have something of a schedule for when you can see each other. Sometimes long distance relationships can't be helped. Take a couple where one is in the military and one isn't. They seem to work ok.
2007-03-22 11:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by kyishiafrazier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they can, but both sides have to be completely comitted to each other & there has to be a lot of communication.... whether it be over the internet via IM software like Yahoo, ICQ, or AIM..... or the phone.
I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman for over 4 years now & it's been great. I proposed to hear last September & we're planning our marriage. She's the most wonderful person i've ever known & I love her very much. This relationship is the greatest thing to happen to me.
It requires a lot of patience though because it does get hard at times. it's not easy to maintain a long distance relationship but it can be worth it.
2007-03-22 11:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
its a so so situation. most people who have bad long distance relationships usual think the other person is messing with someone else then they do the same thing. or it was infactuation and not real love so it didnt work.
but if you love eachother enough that you 100% trust them with all your heart and they feal the same then it can work. love is something that cant be broken even with distance and people who tell you other wise or say they are cheating are wrong. it can work. you just have to love that person and trust them
2007-03-22 11:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Shirabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of factors, how far the distance is, how often you will see each other, how much effort each of you put into the relationship, and whether or not the both have patience and trust.
Although I would like to warn you it is hard to bear at times; missing someone takes an emotional toll.
2007-03-22 11:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by r4b131t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they can...if it's really meant to be and if you BOTH work hard at it. I was in a long distance relationship for 9 months...i was in California, she was in Atlanta, Georgia. It was hell at times because i needed to be WITH her so bad & i ran up hundreds of dollar cell phone bills in overages (lol), until i switched to nextel & got free incoming calls!! BUT we worked through it all, learned each other REALLY well in the process...and then in december of 2006, she made the move out here to Cali and we're still together. Two years and counting....:-)
It just takes severe dedication, self-control, will power and trust. But then that should be in EVERY relationship.
2007-03-22 11:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
in most cases no but if you are meant for each other nothing will keep you apart. I have had long distance relationships and they never worked though
2007-03-22 11:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♫Rock'n'Rob♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋