Worried about abortion ????

Question

Only for those whove been through an abortion plz .... I am feelin so illl at the moment and feel as thogh my child is punishing me for going through with the abortion I know its due to the pregnancy but I just feel so guilty. Its the right thing to do as im 17 no job and starting college soon and my b.f's at college also we dont want to live off the goverment for a house or money. But keep questioning myself I had a scan and
they saw nothing ( at 6 weeks) , althogh I wasnt countng on it I feel as though my baby didnt want me to know it was there. I just want to feel its ok and that I will gt over it and have children with my partner later on in life , and forget this ever happened. Has anyone else gone through this????

Thanx India 4 that picture it has made me think and slightly nauseaus :0( xx

Answer 1

You will not ever forget this, and you shouldn't. That was a life that you two created, and it is not meant to be forgotten. As for having other children later, after abortions that is not guarenteed! Personally I don't believe in abortions, but I have had miscarriages. Next time something like this happens, consider adoption....that is better for you, and it allows a couple who isn't able to have children have a baby!

Answer 2

Everything you are feeling is totally normal. I felt like this on and off for about 2 years after my abortion. I was in the same position. Just starting Uni and boyfriend was joining the Marines. It was not an ideal situation and I was very scared at the thought.

Your hormones are all over the place and you need to remember this and take things easy on yourself. You made a decision that was right for you and the baby and you should not question it.

When the time is right for you to have a baby you will know.

Please dont listen to any anti abortion answers. You made your decision and made it for you and everyone envovled. It was a brave decision to make and not taken lightly.

I didnt see anything on the scan either so dont panic.
If you have someone to talk to about this then let it all out believe me it dosent last forever.

I now have a baby boy with another on the way but I dont regret my abortion as I know Iwould not have coped with a child at that age.

Answer 3

Im gettin mixed signals as to your question/need. Did you already have the abortion or are you still contemplating this procedure? I hope you have not, but again I am pro-choice. All I can tell you is it will eat you up inside. It might not be right away, but as time goes by you will think about what could of been. It might feel like an easy way out being your still very young and your education is first but many people do it. Just maintain a positive attitude, take one day at a time and dont let what you are trying to obtain for the future put you through hurt and anguish. Your still early in your pregnancy and when you hit that mark when you start bumpin out or feel that baby move you will be happy you made the right decision. While In the relationship I am currently in, I got pregnant in June of '05. I was scared, miserable and just plain out selfish. Not caring for my partners feelings nor mine went ahead and "Made an Appt."! I contemplated every single minute i was there to just leave....even to the last minute before it happened. Bieng outright selfish cause me to not have that child. It wasnt til 5 or 6 months later that I started thinking about it around the time i would hit another month. I was to be due on March 13, 06. That day completely tortured me. Needless to say My partner and I both wished I had never done it.On March 11 of this month I had a gut feeling I was pregnant, I took a test on the 16th and sure enough...Yipee. I have a daughter already from a previous engagement and she is sooooo happy to have a sis or bro. I hope you can have the strenght to carry on what god gave you as a gift. Look at it this way, this could simply be a test to see how strong you are, and we are never given anthing we cannot handle. Don't give up as easily as I did. I wish you the best of luck in any decisions you may choose.

Answer 4

Well if you are already feeling like this.. then your conscience is telling you that you are about to make a big mistake and you may never get over this. You pay your taxes just like all of us and if you have to use Medicaid or WIC to help you raise this child so be it. It doesn't make any less of a person. You can always put the child up for adoption as well and that would be a gift to someone who would love your child as their very own. But hearing the concern in your voice right now.. you are not wanting to do this and having regrets. Maybe you both should have another long talk about it and see what you can do to make you feel better. Just going to throw a what if.. what if you do this and when you are really wanting to try again.. you can not have any more children. That would weigh heavy on you and make you crazy. I wish you the best on your decisions.

Answer 5

i have around about Ur age, the most i can stress to u is if u have any doubts at all don't do it. i know it is a worrying time and u may think of excuses not to go through with having the child like i don't have money or what ever but there are so many organisations out there to help make sure u can work and have baby. i was 16 when i had my 1st baby and i was 17 when i had the abortion, personally it was the wrong decision for me and there is not one day that goes by that i don't think about that baby what its eyes would be like boy/girl blond hair brown smart funny caring sensitive and these r things i will never know.i felt pushed into it because bf said he would leave me if i had it and i didn't wont to lose out on my youth. now i miss my baby! i would really stress to u not to do this unless u feel completely sUre of ur decision no buts! it must be what u want! and don't jump into it lightly u have lots of time to think about it. the biggest question is ARE U SURE? 1 little niggle of doubt and no u r not! If u r sure then go and talk it over with GP and he will be able to organise everything for u good luck and hope u make the right decision for u.

Answer 6

I went through the same thing when I was 17, except my b/f pressured me to go through with it, and he turned into such a jerk soon after I did it(and we were together 3 years!) and now I'm 21 pregnant w/ a little boy due real soon and I'm with an amazing guy. I have been working since I was 16 but reguardless, raising children when your a teenager is very difficult, I know a lot of people who did a great job and props to them, but it wasn't for me. I'm very happy in the situation I'm in now, however, it doesn't mean I made the right decision when I was 17-just a quick fix-and I still think about it all the time and the guilt is endless, I pray all the time that my baby will be born perfect and everything goes smoothly because I'm scared God may punish me for killing his 1st baby. It is just something you have to live with. Good Luck

Answer 7

India, that is one of the most cruel things you could have done!

This is your body and your choice. You seem to be thinking about this rationally. Sometimes birth control, however much we try to be careful, doesn't work. I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this right now. There are arguments both ways, but you have to do whatever is best for you, your body and situation at this time in your life. If you go to a reputable clinic, you should be able to have children in the future. Take the counselling when they offer it to you. You will be able to move on and live your life. You won't forget it though, but as with any loss, you will be able to move on. I really hope everything goes well. Don't listen to the people on here who are anti-abortion. Everyone is different. Good luck :-) xx

Answer 8

SORRY HUNNIE YOU WILL NEVER GET OVER IT!!!!!!
i did the same thing when i was 17 years old, i except i already had a 6 month old and couldn't handle another one. at that time it was something i had to do, we could barely take care of 1 baby much less 2. anyways, i am now 24 years old and i have a 7 year old son that i love dearly but i can't help but wonder about the baby i aborted, it would have been 6 years old now. not a day goes by that i don't think about this baby!!!! make sure you are sure about your decision before you make it, there is no going back!!! good luck!!

Answer 9

Your going to get a lot of flack for this. I think your illness could be you punishing yourself because you are confused. You won't forget that it has ever happened even if you try but you need to come to terms with whether you truely do think it is the right thing to do. Just make sure you talk to someone throughly about it because otherwise you are going to have a lot of questions that are left not answered and they will come back later on in life. I had an abortion when I was very young after being abused and even in that situation I never forget about it. But i will look around and see mothers who are ignoring their children things that have generally shocked me. At 12 not only was it bad for my body to bring a child into that world would not be a good thing I would seriously regret my choice if I was to keep the child even if it survived.

Now with you because you are older you could go through with a pregnancy and consider adoption without to many complications. Remember this is an option and there are lots of people who are unable to have children who give them loving homes.

You seem very confused I would recommend contacting a counceller with your boyfriend present to work through thoughts and feelings It could make things a lot clearer in your mind.

Answer 10

IT IS OKAY! Asking questions about abortion on yahoo is not going to give you the support you need though. People here are generally very anti-abortion, but represent only a very small segment of society. Find a group online or through planned parenthood or anywhere where people WILL give you support in your decision, which I personally feel - given your age and circumstances - is the right one for all concerned. You will be okay but get some real support - it's not here though. Good luck; everything will be okay.