Even when I know for a fact that something was not my fault, he will turn it around and say well if you hadn't done this then I wouldn’t have done that. How can I get him to take responsibility for him actions?
2007-03-22 03:44:31 · 21 answers · asked by katherinet0805 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most people fail to take responsibility until they've lost what they rejected. I'm not promoting leaving but I am promoting refusing to argue. Stand strong but sometimes the best strength and tactic is silence. The cold shoulder if you want to call it that...nonetheless, be civil and peaceful about everything and in time he should realize that his actions have cost him certain things that he would rather have than not have, which will leave him having to figure his perspectives out.
2007-03-22 03:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 22:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by walpole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so "funny" because I find this to be the case for myself, and I'm a guy. It doesn't matter how "right" I am going into a disagreement/argument, I always come out being in the wrong on the exit.
I suspect that in any disagreement there are elements of right and wrong that both parties are "guilty" of, and we just happen to be more willing to admit to our part of being wrong. Ergo, we always end up in the situation that you describe.
Darn it.
The important thing of course is not being right... the important thing is moving on with life together. We just pay the price of being the peacemakers/peacekeepers.
Here's a hug for being the "better" person.
2007-03-22 04:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. With that in mind, stand your ground by continuing to express why things were his fault, and then explain you're tired of him putting blame on you if it's not your fault. If that really doesn't work; I would ignore him for a few days. This gets men's attention quicker than anything. Just continue with your daily thing, just don't speak to him, and when you're ready too; let him know you are that mad and tired of being put the blame on for things you didn't do. Otherwise, you may need to think of counseling with him or just moving on....
2007-03-22 03:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You so can't...most men honestly think they don't do anything wrong. :) I would let it in one ear and out the other. The next time something doesn't go as planned before he can say it's YOUR fault, tell him in a sarcastic tone, I know it's ALL MY FAULT. See what kinda reaction you get.
2007-03-22 04:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think more than 75 percent of men are like this, and there is really nothing that can be done about it, my husband does the same thing
2007-03-22 04:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you catch more flies with honey.....! Arguing only puts the other person on the defensive.......(we defend our territory and
our ego even from the one we partnered with and love) Sounds like you are both defending yourselves. Try simply saying "well I thought it was the right thing at the time". Your not being defensive and not saying you or he is right or wrong. Whats left for him to argue over.
2007-03-22 03:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to make sure you are taking responsibility for YOURS. Keep the peace and just be quiet and don't argue so much. Doesn't help anyone or anything.
2007-03-22 04:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and immature.Stop taking the blame for thing's that are not your fault.When you take the blame you are just enabling him to continue his childish behavior..Tell him sraight out that he need's to grow up and act like a man and real men take responsibility for their actions plain & simple..Good Luck to you.
2007-03-22 03:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone hates who he is and in order to try to cover up the things about him self that he knows is wrong he trys to focus on something other than himself. You are a perfect target.
I tell you what, that is normally a symptom of Narcissist personality disorder. It is very hard to convince a narcissist of anything other than what he believes. The only thing that could possibly help is therapy and meds.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 04:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋