I receive alot of "funny" looks from people when they see me with my 2 year old daughter; and see that I am pregnant again. I finished highschool, I am in College and I work. I feel that I am taking care of My soon to be 2 children and myself very well. Why are people so quick to judge? TY for all your answers.
2007-03-22 03:34:46 · 39 answers · asked by preggo_mami23 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
TY, all for your answers. And Yes, both of my children have the same father and he is apart of our life. We are engaged. I guess I can look kind of young to some, considering I don't wear makeup most of the time. I guess I should learn not to worry so much about what others think, but some people can be very rude and judgemental. Well TY everyone again.
2007-03-22 03:47:41 · update #1
Ok, to add some more info (sorry if I did not give enough the first time). My fiancee owns his own glass business, I go to school during the day, which is only for 4 hours 5 days a week. So I have a babysitter which I have known for years and I trust her with everything. I come home and spend the rest of the day with my daughter until around 5:00, when my finacee comes home. Then I go to work. I am almost done with school so, I will be able to quit my night jod and get into my career pretty soon. That way I will have more time to spend with my daughter and the one on the way!
2007-03-22 03:57:18 · update #2
i don't think its too young. I'm 22 and preg. with my second. i don't really notice the looks but then again i don't care what people think. so as long as your able to support your family then that's great.
2007-03-22 03:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by island_chick21 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am almost 23 and I am 30.5 weeks pregnant...I get the same looks...it's like people are saying "you look awfully young to be pregnant". People especially look at me a little harder now that I'm so huge and my fingers are so swollen I can't wear my wedding band. Sometimes I get uncomfortable when people give me the looks...but I try not to let it bother me. Age isn't always the best determining factor on whether you'll be a good parent or not! It's more about maturity than age. Just realize that you are doing a great job and who cares what everyone else thinks!
And CONGRATS on working towards your college degree! I just finished college last spring and there's NO WAY I could've done it with 1 child and 1 on the way!!! Give yourself a big pat on the back! :)
2007-03-22 03:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!! I don't think there is any "right age" to become a mother, as long as you are settled and financially stable.
I'm 23, and I have a 5 year old boy and I'm 34 weeks pregnant with a little girl. I was very young when I had my son, and his father left me when I was pregnant, but with my mum's help, I went back to school, got 5 A-levels (English qualifications) and I now have a good job in an Estate Agency.
My partner took on my son when we started dating, and my son now calls him "daddy" - we felt it was the right time to have another child so we went ahead and baby is due 30th April!
This is a really happy time in my life, and I'm glad I'm doing it now, I have the energy to play football etc... with my son, and I will be young enough to really enjoy my daughter too.
Ignore the looks, imagine what it was like at 18 when I was taking my son to Playschool!! I've learnt just to laugh it off. People shouldn't judge, I know a woman who has just had a baby at 32, and of course she doesn't get any funny looks - but she doesn't even know who her baby's dad is!!
Congrats and good luck! :-)
2007-03-22 04:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first son at 19 and my second when I was 23. I got all the looks and even some comments. So I know where you are coming from. Try to ignore them and just concentrate on being the best Mommy you can be. Because I had my sons so young, I am always the youngest Mom at school functions (they are 12 and 8 now) and it's interesting to see that those people that gave me the "funny" looks now appear to be almost jealous!
Take pride in the fact that you are a young and "hip" Mom. It will be a blessing in the future!
2007-03-22 03:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are by yourself, no husband? That might be part of it. If you do have a husband, I would say there is no reason to care what people think. I am 23 and have two children. I was married when I was 19, and we wanted children about the time I was 21...we fianlly were able to adopt last September, and brought a newboren foster baby into our lives January. Some people think that we are crazy for bringing two babies into our home so close together. I am a stay at home mama, and I love it!
2007-03-22 03:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think 24 is too young to be the mother of two. The sense of motherhood is something that lies in you, and isn't something that comes with age. You should be proud to be able to take care of school and two small children at the same time. Stand up for yourself and the choice you have made and don't let other people's opinions affect you being a good mother. Focus on giving your children a great childhood to remember rather than bothering about people that think they're better than you.
2007-03-22 03:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Emelie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's your life. I feel the same way. It's funny because i'm pregnant with my first baby, i'm 23. I've graduated highschool, i am a paralegal and i own a record label on which i am an artist myself as well. And people look at me like i'm crazy to be having a child at 23. I feel your pain girl, it just depends on who is looking. People are just like that. Always quick to judge. It's unfortunate. But especially older people, hey let's face it, things were much different back then than they are today, so, hey, as long as you are taking care of your business, and doing what you gotta do, I say, More power to you girl! Congrats and Good Luck! :) Don't worry bout other people! :)
2007-03-22 03:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course not, my friend is 23 and has a 3 year old daughter and a 19 month old son. And I am 22 (almost 23) and I have an 18 month old daughter and I am pregnant again.Everyone looks at me because I look like I am 16, because I am just 5 foot and weigh 103 lbs (before pregnancy) Dont worry about what other people think, they are probably just jealous!! Congratulations.
2007-03-22 03:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I know what you mean. Can you imagine me, I'm 24 and pregnant with my 4th baby. I'm married, we've owned a house for 4 years, I work, etc. etc. etc. I don't like the fact that people judge so much or even underestimate my abilities. I have 2 school age children and these parents look at me crazy sometimes and don't think I can do what I volunteer for. For example I want to be a chair person for one of the PTA sponsored events and I don't think, they think I can do it. But I can.
Well, anyways. Don't let it bother you. I'm sure you do a great job parenting and working. Your the only one who knows what your capable of and how to handle it.
Good Luck!
2007-03-22 03:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Momma K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I started at 27 and had two by 30. Of course I still look 24 and I have 4 kids now..haha
People are weird, best you learn how to ignore "funny looks" now, soon you'll have two kids and one throwing a big tantrum in the store...wait til you see THOSE looks!
People are quick to judge because they're morons, life your life, be happy, and don't worry about what others think!
Good luck :)
2007-03-22 03:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide if you are too young to have 2 children at 24 - it's a personal choice.
Ignore other people's looks as it is nothing to do with them.
Everybody is different some people decide to wait until they are older before starting a family and others prefer to have a family while they are young.
As long as you look after them well what's it matter what others think.
2007-03-22 03:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by Casey13 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋