I have noticed that my husband calls on his kids first. He got a new job and called our daughter. I found out 2 days later from her. Since then, I realize, he calls her every morning and stops in to see our son regularly. I have already brought it to his attention....at least the part where I feel he has burdened our kids with adult responsibilities and discussions because he will chat with them first (late teens but still not appropriate to me).... what do y ou think? Am I being to sensitive. Heres my thought...you are in a relationship with the person who you go to first....my first thought every day is him....but its not that way for him.....
2007-03-22 03:31:52 · 6 answers · asked by Sweetserenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
COMMUNICATION. you have to be assessable so he can feel he CAN come to you first. I think it's wonderful he can talk to his children but as his partner you should be the first one he turns to. Talk to him and ask what you can do to change this.
2007-03-22 03:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be proud that he puts his kids first, they are his only thing in life that are going to be there for him all the time.. You could go at any minute but he will always have his kids, I do think you are being a little bit sensitive about this, and a little bit jealous.. My husband comes home from work yells for his dog says hello while passing to the bathroom, tells the kids he loves them on the way out and the gets to me.. I dont take it as he loves me any less then the rest of the family, I just think he knows I am here waiting when he gets to me cause I love him... try talking to him about this
2007-03-22 10:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't defined why he's calling them. Such as, is it to just talk and tell them how much he loves them or is it to tell them things they need to do. In either case he's doing the kids a favor. I think it's great that a dad will call his kids up just to talk and tell them he loves them. If he's calling them up to give them some chores to do, he's helping them become responsible young adults. Is he calling them at home and you're not getting to the phone first? There's a lot of missing information. I don't think you have too much to worry about, especially if you two have been together for so long. He's doing a great job it sounds like.
2007-03-22 10:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a husband who actually talks about things? Well, at least that's a start. Please, do not be envious of your children - too many men never talk to their kids, and even though he may be giving them "TMI" in your opinion, he is at least trying. Don't be defensive with him, just initiate conversation when you can, and take it from there. He's still YOUR husband, so you're doing something right.
Oops - just noticed you were asking men...how typical of me, a woman, to just jump in with my opinion. Sorry.
2007-03-22 10:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pretending To Work 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the bright side, at least it's the kids and not the dog! He probably just misses them a bunch since they are away and maybe he's afraid you won't be as supportive and happy about things as they are; just a thought.
2007-03-22 10:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cat he is good listener then my wife
2007-03-22 11:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋