Why would a woman marry a man who doesn't do housework?

Question

And why do women on this site ask about how to get their husbands to help? I mean, it's one thing if your just a lazy house wife who wants to slack off, but if you're both working clearly, you should be sharing the house work or simply neglecting it together. I'd never stay with a man who expected me to do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry ect. for one, I'm not very good it at it. Two, it's not fair and three, I'd rather neglect it anyways. Maybe I'm a slob, but I'd rather be a slob than a slaving wife!

So, what the hell! Explain yourselfs!

And why don't these men do the house work? Clearly, they took care of themselves with single and alone. Are their wives so stupid as to let these husbands take advantage of them? Sounds like garbage.

Why is it my place to keep it clean? We share the place meaning it's our place to do whatever WE want with it!

I work just as much as he does! Like I said, it would be different if it were a lazy house wife wanting to slack off, but I'm no house wife.

Oh, and I've gone to school more years than my partner!

Answer 1

I share the same view as you! It should be both parties responsibilty to clean the house. Most of the time when i too tired, i just ignore it,, and if he cannot stand the messy.. he will clean it.. so there nothing wrong.. one of the best way.. get a weekly cleaning service maid that come to clean the house for you.. and both party share the cost!

Answer 2

Marriage is a partnership where both have to contribute their fair share. I am a neat freak the opposite of a slob, so I do alot of cleaning as I like things clean, more than is necessary by most peoples standards. I have a zero tolerance for messes and clutter, so I help with everything and so does my husband and we both work full time. Someone has to accept your ways, if they know you are not the cleaning type, you may be great in bed and that maybe just enough for some men, you maybe their trophy wife, which that works for alot of men too, so you are not out of luck if you don't like to clean, and slobs get along with slobs. I think if the woman is an at home mom and only cares for the house and the kids that is her role, to make sure the house is sanitary, and decent for human existence. The man makes the money, that is their deal. In answer to your question why a woman marries a man who doesn't do house work, maybe as she partnered with him, and he does something else, yard work, car repairs, house remodeling, pays bill etc.

Answer 3

ok, we've been butting heads I think! hehehe. If they both make the same amount of money, the same amount of schooling, and they both share all the bills and stuff then sure, we can share the housework. But there are too many things to take into consideration. If I love my wife/gf/whatever, I'll do things for her and she'll do things for me, I do help out with the house stuff but I know I need to back off and let my gf do more of it, 1st of all she wants to, and 2nd of all I'm just used to doing it cause my ex-wife wouldn't. Some things women can do better, and some things men can do better (like my lawn mowing things and shoveling the driveway thing), I cook, clean, do laundry etc, but I HATE IT. I understand that some women are slobs, but take care of your man. I went to school for many more years than my gf, I had a much harder life than my gf (than my x-wife too), I paid all the prices to deserve a little more, I make all the money, pay all the bills, take care of the landscaping and the "hard labor" kind of stuff, I fix the things that need it etc, the least my gf can do is the things that I HATE to do, or the things that she can do, I shouldn't have to do all the stuff I do, pay the "due's" that I have and still do half the housework. I wouldn't marry another slob or a girl who thought that we should split the housework, girls like that are just good for a couple things.
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Than it sounds like you're the exception to the rule, you're just as able to do the manual labor around the house as he is, and he's just as able to do the housework. I agree with Maria below.
As for me, I want to take care of my gf, and I want her to take care of me, I fulfill her needs, and she fulfills mine, and part of my needs is not having to do all the housework, not that it's a girls job, it's just that she doesn't mind it, and I want to be taken care of that way. It's not 50/50, but we come out balanced in the end.

Answer 4

Believe it or not, some women don't mind doing the housework. As for those who do, they should make that clear to their husbands. Alot of us women choose to be stay at home Moms and homemakers. Taking care of our family and home well is our job! The truth be known, I do most of our housework simply because I want it done right! I like my things done a certain way. My husband is great at taking out the garbage, and vacuuming, so he does help where he can. It's not expected on my part because the house is my pride, and when people come to our home, the reflection is directly on me, and not my husband. And just for the record, NEVER say NEVER, cause that will indeed be the one thing that will take place!

Answer 5

Oh, Chris, the answerer knows how we are feeling.
Usually, when a mature woman chooses a man to marry, the last thing on her mind is who is going to do the housework. And women ask, because that's what this forum is for - advice and ideas. Some women may not be sure if it appropriate to ask, and some just need tips on how to motivate their husbands.
You obviously are making your own choices, and good for you! You sound like a real sweetie and hopefully your husband deserves you. Try enjoy your day, eh?

Answer 6

A lot of men never lived on their own before marriage. I had lived on my own for a few years when we met, he still lived at home (we were 21 at the time). I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. My husbands does help me (although I do most of it before he has a chance, he is willing). I can't complain about that. But I know a lot of them that don't because their mothers did it for them. Even after they moved out. One guy I knew had a mom that would go to his house a couple times a week to clean it.

Answer 7

I know someone who is lazy, and it bugs the crap out of me, she sits on her duff on the phone all day, on the computer stuffing her face, and her car, house is for ever messy, and her man is out working his buns off paying for her to sit on the cell phone that he pays for, 350.00 monthly. And let me tell you they are about to split, he is cleaning house when he gets off of work and do you see the Justice in this? I think not, some people have no respect for what and who they have, i am a clean person, i can't stand to see someone sitting around like they don't appreciate the things they have and don't take care of what they own. My man works hard i don't have to ( i go with him out of town on some jobs) but when i don't want to then i feel it is my duty and job to keep the bills paid, clean my home and anything else i own, not because i have to,( it was instilled in me as a young adult ) and i just like my things clean, duh.

Answer 8

My wife does most of the housework and all of the cooking. We have been married for 29 years. The reason is that we agreed to this before we married. I work to allow her to stay at home to bring up our children and to be there for them when they came home from school. However, that said, we do the washing up together every evening. I go shopping with her every weekend, and we share lot of other stuff together. So it is like a partnership with some agreed roles. Marriage is a partnership and its also full of compromises.

Answer 9

From the sounds of you.You won't have to worry about having a husband whom won't do housework.Because if you are this angry and you aren't one of us "slaving wife's".You have issues and hopefully no man will be stupid enough to put us with you.And for the record my hubby does what ever I ask him to.Including housework.I am just not into men whom wear aprons.And I don't go to his work and do his job for him.So I don't want him coming home trying to do mine for me.

Answer 10

Most men don't do much housework but in households
where both work, men should certainly do their share..
Most men usually take out the trash and do some cooking....