is it arrogant to always look at others faults rather than our own?

Question

becuause you cannot change other people faults but you can change your own and become a better person

Answer 1

It's not arrogant it's insecure, you're bringing other people down because you perceive them as better than you, and to make yourself feel better you build up the faults that they have to make them seem lesser.

Though this shouldn't be mistaken for when something is actually someone else's fault, some things really are out of our control. I speak only for those people constantly doing it.

Answer 2

I agree. However, it is always easier to look at others faults rather than to face your own. I do think it is sort of arrogant to only look at others faults. If we see their faults we should also be able to see their assets. Going inside of yourself and facing your own faults takes courage. Once you do it however, you will become a much better person. First we should work on ourselves and allow others to do the same instead of comparing ourselves to each other.

Answer 3

I don't think it is arrogant, I think it is just the way we are brought up to be. Not everyone is like this but the majority of people will attribute their own mistakes to the situation and the mistakes of others to their personal faults.
I do think you are right on the last bit though, if we can we should try to be more aware of our faults and change them to make ourselves better people.

Answer 4

I think this is normal. It`s so much easier to see faults in others. However to own up to our own faults means we are admitting we have them, and then face up to having to change is not comfortable. So by comparing ourselves with people who are worse than us gives us the reason to do nothing....A sort of comfort zone.

Answer 5

I don't think the word is arrogant but I know what you mean. Somebody who tends to pick faults with others is actually avoiding their own Issues. What does somebody elses faults have to do with you...

Answer 6

Yes it is arrogant and also quite ignorant.

Critisising almost never helps, It's a strange game we play, trying to manipulate others to suit ourselves.

I try very hard not to do it, but find I do, all the time. At the end of the day, we are all selfish and everything, even love comes at a cost.

My advice, chill out, calm down, enjoy yourself, don't concern yourself with other peoples issues and everyone else will enjoy being with you.

Answer 7

In Japan they have a nice little saying...

"Cut the little weed...

...And someday it will grow up bigger than you as an immovable tree."

In Wadokai Aikido of Ashland, Virginia we say --

"The Mountain does not speak ill of the stream because it is so low...

...Nor does the stream does not speak ill of the mountain because it cannot move...

-- Speak ill of someone, and it will come back to you in time."

Critizing another person for their faults brings you down to lower than their level. It makes a smart person seem dumb, the dumb person seem smart, but overall it does nothing to help either improve.

Answer 8

In the working environment, it is essential to know the faults of those with whom you work so that your decisions and judgements are informed and more likely to produce the desired outcome.
In your personal life, identifying anther's faults will often determine the level of association with that person.

Answer 9

Jazakallah Brother ! What you have written right here is the voice of my heart. Our brothers and sisters now bypass purely for type and not the spirit. They see the faces and garments no longer the deeds and the middle as Allah does. They by no ability hassle to think of why Allah is displeased with us and why our worldwide places are being attacked one by using one and our brothers and sisters are killed in chilly blood by using American drones and missiles. in actuality we are in the midst of a marketing campaign, extra deadly and unsafe than the faster ones. Ahadis of blessed prophet prophesied approximately those events, yet we've not got time to examine them. Even our ulemaa discourage us to learn the tip time prophesies of our loved prophet asserting that purely Allah is conscious while Qiamat will ensue. little question approximately that, yet then why Nabi Karim spoke lots approximately fitan. In each and each noble series, there is one complete financial disaster committed to age of fitan. yet we've been lots blinded by using the propaganda of the west that we don't dedicate our time to understand our latest subject. would Allah pardon our lack of understanding and carelessness and handbook us to His authentic path. Ma assalamah! Muhammad Javed Iqbal

Answer 10

I am not sure if I would classify it as arrogance. However, it is very self defeating. One can always improve self, And the only true way to improve self is to realize with self evaluation what is lacking, what can be improved. God bless****