Is it wrong to want kids at 15?

Question

i will never have sex before i'm married. i wouldn't do it if threatened to kill me. but i want kids. when i babysit, i can't help thinking what it would be like to have one of my own. i just want to grow up real fast and get married and have a baby. is this normal for a girl my age?

Answer 1

You might see and feel the benefits of children and a family early. Hundreds of years ago, 15 year olds got married and had kids. In today's world this is more uncommon, but often seen in third-world countries.

You have a lot of growing to do and it's different to be a mom than to be a sitter. You can't be a part-time mom and honestly, you also will have a mon in your life that is a much larger complication than you can imagine.

I commend your interest in child care and recommend you follow up on it by finding a way to volunteer in an environment that will give you more "professional" training and knowledge about coaching and caring for little ones. Find a childcare center, or after school care program at the YMCA that needs volunteers. You can learn a LOT there!

Then there is "sleep deprivation" ........

good luck!

Answer 2

Your problem may be:
You are lonely
Your parents are not so great
You are bored

Having kids that young is always a bad idea. Most folks can't pick a friend they want for 18 years, lol or a favorite color or sandwich. To have a baby, and be 100 percent responsible for EVERYTHING at such a young age? Not the cooing and cute stuff, but the months of little sleep, EVERY messy diaper, the sickness they get, the constant financial problems...ugh.

Now if you said, Oh, my family would help...then you are even
less ready for kids. You are admitting youre sure you can't do it on your own. And of course you can't. You cant get a job and make enough to live on your own, you can't pay for medical expenses and insurance, you can't pay for all the clothing and all the mommy, I want thats.

Find a group of friends.

Join a club that takes up some time.

Enjoy your youth because once you have a baby, all that is out of the picture. It's pretty to think everything will be pink and fuzzy and fine. But in reality, a baby is a constant. No matter what you want to do, where you want to go, whom you want to date, you have a kid from now on.

Wait. Use this time to have FUN and find your true self. You will change so much in just the next 5 years. Just wait. You have changed in the last 5, right? The next 5 is way, way more changing. Having a kid now, destroys so many chances in your life, you will regret and not be able to change it.

Answer 3

It's great that you love kids, BUT there is much more to having children than fun, games, & hugs. It is a huge responsibility! The cost of raising a child itself is something that a person at 15 would not be capable of. You would not be able to support a child. A child is a full time job, not like babysitting, where you can spend a few hours with the kids and leave. Once you have a child, you will not be able to go anywhere without them, they come first at all times. Their is so, so much more I could point out to you why having a child at 15 is wrong for you and for the child, but there is not enough space here. You will have your family someday, when you finish your education , have a husband and a stable home and income to care for children. Until then, enjoy the time you have babysitting, enjoy being 15. Everyone is in a hurry to grow up when they are teens, but once you become an adult with all the responsibilities, you wish you were a kid again!

Answer 4

You're dreaming. Which is good. Just don't mistake it for actual planning. Did you know that for every year you put off having children you will be better off financially? Babysitters, in may ways, have a better job than the parent. You don't have to worry about paying the mortgage or having health insurance, and you get to go home at the end of the day and turn down any jobs that conflict with your other activities.

That said--it's great that you enjoy kids. Keep it up. Kids need people who enjoy them. And when you are in college you can even stay with kids while parents are away for a weekend or on business a few days. That will be both fun and a way to see how constant parenting can be. Take that three day experience and multiply it by an entire childhood.

For now, enjoy the life you have and set about creating a successful person that any child would be proud to call "Mom."

Answer 5

Dont grow up too fast, even though it is nice to think about all the things you want to do in the future. It is natual to try and plan out that part of our lives. I bet you have had your wedding practically planned since you started playing with barbies.

Enjoy being young now. have fun. It is a great time to live your life at that age. It is alot harder to do once you are older and have a lot more responsibilities as an independant adult. When you are out of school i also advise to travel a bit, even if it is a few road trips. It is a lot harder and more costly once you have kids. I wish i would have done somthing like that. Now i have to wait until I am 40! lol

Anyways, live life to the fullest and always have fun!

Answer 6

It's not wrong to think about it. But it's another thing to actually do it. Having a kid is a big responsability and I think you should enjoy every moment you spend with kids if you like them so much. But put the idea of having a baby on the side, you have a life in front of you to explore and live to the max and enjoy before you have kids. COncentrate on the things that matter and are important to you and your future, like a school, a career, etc., because that way you will have a good future and when you DO have kids you will be able to provide them with all they need and you will be happy! If you have a kid now you will stuggle all your life girl, i have seen it with school mates and it doesn't look fun. Good luck! =)

Answer 7

Speaking as a parent of two young children, I have to say that my children are among the chief joys of my life. Your desire to have children is completely natural and I am sure that, when you are ready, you will make a great mom.

With that said, Slow down a little! Being a parent is an awesome responsibility (Proverbs 22:6). Unlike babysitting (which has a starting and stopping time) being a parent is a 24-7 situation. "Sick days" are non-existent (except of course the days that your kids are sick) and time off is hard to come by. Furthermore, it is a two person job. You owe it to your future children to establish your identity and path in life and then to find a husband who you can trust to share a lifetime of love with you and your children.

Maintain your desire to have a loving family, but keep it at arm's length and take care of today's responsibilities (Matthew 6:34). In the meantime, prepare yourself to be the best mom that you can be by becoming the best person that you can be right now. Be patient and make decisions that satisfy both your heart and your mind. Be wise (Proverbs 23:19) and you will be able to look back with your grandchildren cradled in your lap and have few regrets.

Answer 8

i think the best mothers turn out to be the ones that think this at some point and time the bad thing is you don't get over this feeling when you are done having your children and married and you see a baby inside your head will be "the little voice saying i want a baby" knowing that you don't want any more
but yes wait there is nothing wrong with wanting but make sure that you are done living your life before you decide to have children like going to clubs parties all of that fun stuff you are suppose to do before you get ready to totally grow up
because once you have them you shouldn't drop them off on people just so you can go out drinking and things that people do when they are younger
so make sure you live first before settling down

Answer 9

I was pregnant at 15 and had my precious daughter at 16 and while i loved her dearly and would never change a thing about having her there were many things i missed out on like high school ,prom queen,not sure if i would have made prom queen but i wish i would have had the chance to discover that.And it really sucked to finish high school through Futures(a canadian school for kids who were 16-25) and through correspondence.I missed out on all the good stuff that people your age should be enjoying now.If this is about you please don't.Go out and have the time of your life until you can manage that kind of life because it is not an easy road for any young girl.And the cost of raising a child is outrageous.Good luck young lady and be a young girl a bit longer okay.

Answer 10

If a fantasy is all it is, then that's fine. Especially adolescents have grown-up fantasies. Just remember not to act upon them. Babies are cute when you babysit, but having one 24/7 will make you crazy! (Even when you are grown and married!) I say remember not to act upon them, because it is possible for you to become a mom at your young age. My sister did that, and while she would never give up her son she does regret that she did not go to college, etc, etc. Also she regrets that many men do not want to be with her because she already has a child. Don't worry about your fantasies as long as they stay in your head! Just imagine that day when you will have a family of your own and how much you will enjoy and appreciate it! (after college) ;)