My Ex-boyfriend was abusive verbally and phisicaly but other times he was good to me and i know that deep down inside he loves me but he told me other wise when i went to give him theDr. statement (read Previous questions) he told me that he doesnt hate me that eventually he will apologize when he's ready and that he doesntlove me! i cant believe that in two weeks he completelly lost his love for me after 1yr. & 1/2 is just driving me crazy and i cant get over him i dont know what to do im already making appointments to get psycological help but it hurts me so much i wanna die...
2007-03-22 02:27:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its a great start saying EX-boyfriend ! HE DOESNT LOVE YOU.
18 mos is the magical time. so many people last only 18 mos.
You know in your head you can do better anyway abusers are at the bottom of the food chain, the only way to go is up.
I fell for mr.romantic...he was so romantic i felt a suffocated and a little bewildered he was pushy and manipulating but so loving . I was 17 he was 19 My dad made me quit seeing him because he said the guy was "different" in a way he couldn't put his finger on.I was relieved a little but didn't know why.But I had dad break it off because I was too anxious about him
2 mos later he killed his new wife in front of her little brothers
because she was playing with one of them and told the 3 year old you" are my rock I love you more than anyone in the world" He choked her to death.
so you might hurt so bad you wanna die.....yeah...but you didnt. glad you are getting help ! good luck
2007-03-22 03:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in an abusive relationship depletes your self esteem, removes any control you have over your own thoughts and emotions, and takes away rational thought. Your best bet is to get the counseling you mentioned and stay completely away from your ex, do not even speak to him. He is still controlling you and abusing you even though you are no longer with him. He knows this, men like this do not do this accidently. Keep yourself as busy as possible, do not allow yourself to become so depressed that you isolate yourself. Reach out to family and friends, get out of the house, have a good time, even if the smile you put on your face isn't how your feeling deep down. Before you know it, the pain will fade, the tears will dry up and you will be happy again. Best of luck to you, I have been there!
2007-03-22 09:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I went thru the same situation as you. My ex pushed me before and insults me whenever he's angry. Other times, he's very nice to me
Recently, a lot of unhappy events happened and he said he doesn't love me anymore in just 2 wks. I couldn't believe it too. How come someone stop loving in such a short period of time??? We were together for 1 year plus...
I've gotten over him and enjoying my life. My gal friends helped me out a lot as well. Its a relief not having someone to insult you all the time. You will get over him. Trust me. Give yourself some time.
Email me if u need someone to talk to. Grace_Teo_4_Ever@yahoo.com
2007-03-22 09:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made the right move getting help,been there got myself help and joined a church,a gym and was good to myself.I finally realized it wasnt me it was him,yes I was devasted by the breakup,but I wished him well and moved on.You dont have to take the abuse it effects your self esteem,you are a worthy person hang in there you deserve much better.It will get easier to handle through time.Give yourself time to grieve its only natural,get help and you will survive.I did and i am happy again.Still single but thats okay.Maybe one day right now I am working on me.Lots of luck.You will get through this.
2007-03-22 09:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't just fall out of love, its been coming but u didn't see it. first u must accept the circumstances here, and if there is nothing u can do, and the man doesn't love u, u need to believe him and distance yourself. yes therapy does help, and it will take time to get over it, doesn't just happen overnight.its a blow to our self esteem whenever we loose something we love, and can't get it back. but when we don't accept things it takes its tool on us emotionally. believe what he said about not loving u, he meant it, and u shouldn't want someone who doesn't want u.
2007-03-22 09:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋