how to handle people while pregnant?

Question

ok im 14 weeks along and for some reason people always question me about stuff like im lying, like the fact im already wearing some maternity clothes, some say that if im showing this early then i must be further along. or i just started feeling little flutters when i lay down and one lady said that it was waay to early and it was just gas i felt........um i know the difference between gas and fluttering...i dont normally get gas that far down!! why are people doing this? one lady at work ( total witch) even told something she thinks im lying about being pregnant becuase i am never sick and still really small.....um hello whats it matter to you if im pregnant or not? how can i deal with this? i know whats going on with my body but it seems like some people mainly the ones at work question everything i do like im lying about it.

kmennie, im going to take some new advice i got from someone else......**** off!! if i wanted someone to be a total ***** to me id go to work and deal with the wicked witch from the west

sam im 20 years old....and i am too pregnant you dont believe me go **** yourself!!!! my husband is very happy and would never leave me...we wanted this baby thank you very much.

Answer 1

Oh honey, I totally sympathize with you. The bottom line is - who the heck cares what these idiots think!?!?! Get used to it! I am 25 weeks now and I started showing a little early, got flutters early, etc....people just think that everybody's experience is the same and that is just so wrong. You absolutely can feel flutters at 14 weeks. Some people are just more in tune with their bodies than others, so congratulations. I think those people are just jealous that they can't be so tuned in like you are.

Anyway, even at 25 weeks people continue to come at me with their opinions and their advice. I saw screw 'em all! You know what is happening with your body and that is what is important. What I tend to do is just speak very generally with most people and keep the good stuff between me and my husband and very close friends. I mean, even if you were exaggerating (which I don't believe you are, by the way), who would you be hurting if that were the case? People are just stupid and nosey. Try to just let it go and don't worry about trying to prove it to anyone....just enjoy your pregnancy the way you want to!

Answer 2

I see your even getting grief on here!
Ignore it!!! Most women thank they know everything once they have had a child already. Just because their pregnancy was one way does not mean everyone else's is going to be the same.
I felt my baby move at 13 weeks, this is my second baby. Your probably slime that's why you are feeling movements early than most first time mommy's.
The reason why your wearing maternity clothes is because your regular clothes are probably so small that it's getting uncomfortable around your belly right?! See, i know.
Listen, you have to ignore everyone BS. People like that have issues and want to know everyone business. Next time someone at work is running their mouth about your life turn the tables on them and say something about them, either that or laugh in their face because once you do start to show to everyone else they'll have nothing more to say and look stupid. So smile, enjoy your baby's movements and go on with your life because at the end of the day those people don't matter and those who matter don't care:))

Answer 3

I'm 13 weeks and I have felt a flutter or two. This is my third pregnancy so, I know the difference. I haven't been sick at all,either. My stomach has grown quite a bit and I could easily get away with wearing maternity clothes right now. And really, who is to say you can't wear maternity clothes the day you find out you are pregnant? They aren't your mother and you aren't a child who needs their wardrobe picked out for them. Wear whatever you want.

Here's what I would do. Stop talking to these people about it. In fact, don't talk to them at all except in circumstances where you have to. See, people like that talk badly about other people because it takes the focus off of them and covers up their own insecurities. It temporarily makes them feel good about themselves to make someone else feel like crap. Then, they go back to feeling bad about themselves and they start in on the viciousness once again.

So not worth your time or worry.

Eventually, you will have the baby and that will prove that you are as far along as you say you are. In the meantime, take care of you and your baby. Stress is not good for either of you...so do what you can to remove yourself from it.

Answer 4

Everyone is going to have advice about what's happening to you, as if they're sure since they've been through it already. It's a normal reaction, and while it makes you mad and hurts your feelings, I don't think there's much you can do, short of thanking the person and walking away. If you start yelling at people, or telling them what you know to be true, they'll likely say that your hormones are making you fly off the handle. I know it sucks, but really, I suggest nicely excusing yourself from the situation. You might also say you've consulted with your doctor, and he/she has told you that what you believe is true. Good luck. I've dealt with this before.

P.S. I don't know why your co-workers would be so snotty to you. Were they like this before you were pregnant? Maybe it's pure jealousy. Hang in there!

Answer 5

I did not show until I was 6 months pregnant with my first and I still wore maternity clothes because I was excited I'd just tell these people how it is you know like fine you don't have to believe a word I say I really don't give a rat's behind what you think of me. I didn't get sick with my first baby either everyone is different and these people are probably just jealous just take care of you and your baby and forget these people.

Answer 6

If you are naturally tiny to begin with your stomach starts to show early since you don't have much fat to begin with. I had the same thing happen to me. I also felt the baby at around 14 weeks and the doctor said again because I didn't have much fat to begin with it was easier for me to feel things in my stomach. My mother-in-law was the person who didn't believe anything I said, but oh well. Try not to worry what others think or say. I know that is easier to say than actually do, but just stop telling people what is going on with you. They will get why you have stopped talking! Good luck to and your baby!!!

Answer 7

When I was pregnant with my daughter I carried really small. I didn't wear anything maternity until 6 months! I had no morning sickness (just occasional nausea)... I got all kinds of remarks that were not only rude, and inappropriate, but mean spirited...

I felt hurt, but had to just realize it was their ignorance not mine... I would often comment that I'm sorry you think something doesn't seem right, but I'm fortunate enough to have a healthy pregnancy, and my docs think I'm doing great.. Those are the only opinions that really matter!

When all else fails just kick them in the shins and blame it on horomones! Just kidding, but maybe and irrational pregnancy moment will shut them up!

Anyway just hang in there! It's your baby and enjoy it!

Answer 8

One word.........jealousy. They see a young lady who is pregnant and happy about it and probably want the same for themselves. I've realised at times that even people who are 'of age' and have children seem to be aggressive towards me with regards to my pregnancy. I don't know if they think I am too young but I know I'm doing great and really don't need their negative input so all I do is ignore them. If they don't believe you that's their business but there will come a time that you will hold your beautiful little boy/girl in your arms and they will have alot more to say. You should not worry yourself about these people as you have your little one to take care of......stress free, please. And don't let them take your enjoyment of being pregnant away from you, enjoy your little kicks you and your hobby can enjoy them you really don't need them to participate. My advice to you is keep your peace at work for the sake of the baby (don't stress yourself) that's the worst thing you can do. Pray alot and ask got to bless your unborn child with health and strength. You are the only person you need to convince. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 9

Listen, i went through the same thing. I was like 7 months before i started showing and before that people said i was lying and stuff. It made me so mad and being pregnant i was moody anyway. I even went off on some of them. Maybe they are jealous of you. I don't know but if we worry about everything people say we would miss most of our life because people definitely like to talk. Just don't worry about it. You know whats going on and they will soon be able to tell when you start showing. Good Luck.

Answer 10

First off I felt both of my sons move at around 14 weeks and also that's pretty normal. Plus EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. All pregnancies are different. You might not get sick for this one and the next one be on bed rest. You never know. The people you work with don't know what they are talking about.