my daughter is 10 months old, when me and my husband are with her she clings to me more than him, she gets excited to see me, but when we go out she puts her arms out to be held by anyone, i like it thats shes social and not shy but when im around my mom or best friend which is about once a week my daughter cant get out of my hands fast enogh to get into theirs, and this upsets me and makes me feel like she likes them better, like yesterday me and my best friend went to the store and came back my daughter crawled past me to get to her, my question is does anyone elses kids do this, is it normal for me to feel this way.
2007-03-22 02:15:57 · 10 answers · asked by tanyaquinlan@verizon.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes, a lot of kids do this, and yes, it's perfectly normal for you to feel this way! I go through the same thing. My daughter has always been very social also, and will go to just about anyone. She does the same thing, if anyone else is around she will hang more around them. And when we visit Grandma's, anyone BUT me can do anything for her! She always wants grandma to do things for her or get her things, even though I'm right there! She does the same around all my relatives, my brother's girlfriend, and at the babysitter's! I think it's normal the way you feel, you just can't let it bother you so much. The only reason your daughter does this is probably cuz she knows you are always there for her! So she knows she can go have fun with other people, and interact with them, and when she's done, she's got you to go back to! So try to feel special about the way your daughter feels about you, instead of hanging on to that rejected feeling I'm assuming you get, like I do!
2007-03-22 03:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't despair this is sometimes normal depending on the child. My best friend's daughter is the same with me she loves to play with me and eat out of my plate rather than her mom's but from the moment she is hurt, she immediately looks for her mother's comfort. No doubt she loves her mom more than anything, I am probably just a little change for her.
2007-03-22 10:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by redz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal, it means she's curious about other people. Children will always want what stimulates them best, for your baby it seems it's the company of new people. This is great for social development. It's also very normal for you to feel put off by this. Secretely we lust after feeling totally needed by our babies and have a hard time when they don't only just want us anymore. It's called separation anxiety. Just wait until you have to leave your little one with a family member to babysit, or take her to daycare and she cries when you pick her up to take her home. My little guy used to do this and it made me feel bad every time. It's like he would rather be anywhere but with me. Even though it was entirely not true. My anxiety made a bigger deal out of it then it really was.
2007-03-22 09:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh its fine honey i went through the same thing. she will stop after awhile, she is just recognizing familiar people and getting excited. As for the grandparents, sorry the kids are going to prefer the grandparents forever. when my child was a newborn i got so jealous if anyone else just held her for too long, and for the first 2 months of her life, shed cry when i held her but if i gave her to my mom or gramma shed stop crying. i finally figured out it was because they have big boobs and i have like bones so the baby liked those big softies.
2007-03-22 09:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Arraya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your upset by it, but she probably sees you all the time so a new or just different face may excite her. Also, it may be like a treat for her to see people like your mom or best friends because she doesn't get to cuddle with them everyday like you and her do.
2007-03-22 10:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is perfectly normal, not sure if it will make you feel better but dogs are the same way. They are just "new people" to get attention from. Does she prefer or trust most women? Does she hold her arm out to men as well? Most babies will be that way with most women(women are very open & happy to greet babies so they are more comfortable & social with women-trusting. It is learned very early for them.
2007-03-22 09:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she has trust in your mum and best friend. Us mums are always there like part of the furniture and this is a normal way to react for both of you. You will be the one she wants when she is sick or hurt.
2007-03-22 09:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son immediately runs up to my mom, sister, dad, in-laws and grabs their hands and pulls them to play...makes me feel like, "Hey, I play with him! Why doesn't he want me to go?" But it's just that she see's you all day and is happy to see another familiar face to entertain. Of course it's normal to feel upset...but I just remind myself that we see each other ALL THE TIME and, just like mommy, sometimes he needs to communicate with someone else. It also makes the other person feel good that your child is that comfortable with them. I hope this helps!
2007-03-22 10:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it kind of like getting a new toy. Infants are curious.
2007-03-22 09:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase. It is normal to feel the way you do.
2007-03-22 09:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by PJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋