My husbands ex has moved an extremely violent man into their family home. He has already beaten her up and tried to assault her sexually once.She dropped the charges and we have just found out that she moved him back in before christmas. We are really concerned as he has a history of violence. Their mum doesn't care what we think and even though the daughter has told her mum the man scares her, she says tough get used to it. We have called social services but nothing seems to be happening. We don't know what to do to protect them i'd like them here with us but she will only call the police to have them returned. has anybody any advice?? I feel like i'm going nuts.
2007-03-22 01:51:51 · 12 answers · asked by ALISON J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
next time you have the kids over ask them if they would prefer to stay with you until the nasty man has gone, if they agree you can call and let her know. if they call the police the father can tell them he is not happy to send them back to the mum while this violent guy is there, they should have a record of the violence even though she dropped the charges. refuse to send them back and social services will have to get involved and you can fight your corner. it is highly likely this guy has a record with police so it shouldn't be too much trouble to prove he is not good for them to be around. you will have to be firm and stand your ground, but i think you are doing the right thing.
good luck!
2007-03-22 01:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try contacting the NSPCC Child Protection Helpline
The NSPCC Child Protection Helpline offers advice and support to anyone concerned about the welfare of a child. The NSPCC Helpline is a confidential and free service open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Calls are dealt with by our Helpline counsellors, who are all trained child protection officers. You can telephone, email or write to them for information and advice, or to report concerns about a child at risk of abuse.
NSPCC Helpline
Tel: 0808 800 5000
Sorry for the cut and paste but just feel they might be able to give you teh best advice
Good luck - I grew up in a home with domestic abuse and if you can get these children out of that environment then you should do whatever it takes.
2007-03-22 02:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to go back to family court and try and get a new custody agreement, the daughter should also speak with the judge and let him know why she is scared that would go a long way with getting the child(ren) removed from her care.
2007-03-22 01:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep ringing social services and keep pestering them ring twice a day if you have to ring the NSPCC and any other numbers of childrens charitys you can get hold of make them listen if you keep pestering them long enough hopefully they might set so sick of you thay might act, confide in friends ask them also to ring the more people that complain the better! Find out who the health visitor is at the childrens doctors ring in confidence and voice your concerns! I lived a life with a violent step father as did my best friend and we are still suffering now the mental abuse of our childhoods so many children are killed by abusive step fathers I was lucky at 16 I moved away its heartbreaking watching your mother being beaten to a pulp and watching helpless! I tried to help my mother and was beaten as well! My stepfather resented myself and my two sisters as he saw us as a constant reminder of my mothers previous relationship with my father he once even tried to strangle my real father one night as I rang him to help me on an occasion when he was beating crap out of my mother and this man was a social worker!!!! Too many children suffer terribly at the hands of abusive step parents please keep on trying good luck
2007-03-22 07:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for full custody with the courts. Try to get an emergency hearing based on the children's safety. It may not happen, but it is your best chance. When you go, have them tell the judge exactly what is happening and that they are afraid of him.
2007-03-22 01:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the courts. Try a family law attorney and get custody chnaged over to you both. Social services is burdened as it is. Take matters into your own hands..... and soon.
2007-03-22 02:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by megan261980 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not stop....keep it up, use every and any resource available....private detective, police reports, attorneys....take her to court....whatever you need or can do. Don't wait for an over worked CPS system to make a move. Good Luck
2007-03-22 02:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer he can go to court and have them taken from her and put in your hubby's custody. They will do it fast so the kids can be out of danger fast. Good luck.
2007-03-22 02:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get legal advice,i reported my ex to social services for leaving kids with drug users and other things,they said the kids were not in danger and did nothing.keep trying and good luck
2007-03-22 01:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, that's sad. She's not a good mom! Who knows what he will do to the kids.. molestation... physical abuse, mental abuse.. all that puts stress on the kids as well as emotional trauma! Keep trying your best.. no kid deserves to be in that situation..
Get your husband to get a lawyer and fight for the kids.........
I wish you all the best of luck! Please help those kids!
2007-03-22 02:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋