What r ur ideas about "live together"?

Answer 1

I think it's a good way to determine if you will be compatible for marriage - but both partners must be mature and ready for committment before this decision is made.

Answer 2

I've done both. I lived with my ex for almost 4 years... and when I married my husband we didn't live together until we were married.

I can tell you, that the reason my ex and I ended up splitting is because he had no desire for the commitment, even with a child. Once you have everything there at your fingertips, there is no need to solidify anything. We were living the married life without being married.

With my husband, it has been rough at times, but, when that commitment is there, you learn to work around the stupid things. We both have found little nitches that irritate each other, but those things seem so small in the big world of being married.

Since I have done both, I would strongly suggest not living with someone until you are married. Living together beforehand is like kissing any hopes of marriage goodbye.

Answer 3

I think it's great. I really like the idea of common law marriage, but my partner thinks it's low class, wants the gifts after the wedding and my parents are religious zealots, so even though in our minds we are already married, we must go through the bull **** ritual and party.

That crap about the benefits are for the man is so silly! As if women don't enjoy sex, can't leave whenever they want or do all the laundry and cooking just because a man lives there! I may be a woman, but I don't cook, clean or do laundry very often and I love sex!

Answer 4

I don't personally see anything wrong with it. You get to know the little quirks about each other that could possibly be a deal breaker. I know a lot of people say it is wrong and on and on, but really you have to do what you feel is right, most of the ones saying it is wrong are probably the ones that don't see anything wrong with just hooking up before marriage. It happens, always has always will. I think that if you live as husband and wife, then you are husband and wife, just no paper to state it. And its a lot cheaper to say pack your stuff than hire a lawyer.

Answer 5

Most cohabiting couples who hope to marry see their arrangement as a good test run, a way to make sure that they're compatible before tying the knot. After all, who wants to go through a divorce?

Aside from all of the spiritual factors regarding premarital sex, let's take a look at what researchers have found about living together before marriage. Two researchers summarized the findings of numerous studies by stating that "expectation of a positive relationship between cohabitation and marital stability . . . has been shattered in recent years by studies conducted in several Western countries."i

What the studies discovered is this: if you don't want to get divorced, don't move in until after the wedding. Why is that? Consider the following facts about cohabitation: Most couples who live together never end up getting married, but those who do tie the knot are almost twice as likely to divorce as couples who don't live together before marriage.ii Overall, the divorce rate of cohabiting couples is about eighty percent,iii and non-virgin brides are sixty percent more likely to end up divorced than women who enter marriage as virgins.iv Couples who cohabited prior to marriage have greater marital conflict and poorer communication, and they made more frequent visits to marriage counselors.v Women who cohabited before marriage are more than three times as likely to cheat on their husbands within marriage.vi The US Justice Department found that women who cohabit are sixty-two times more likely to be assaulted by a live-in boyfriend than by a husband.vii They were also more than three times as likely to be depressed as married women,viii and the couples were less sexually satisfied than those who waited for marriage.ix

So, from a standpoint of marital duration, marital peace, marital fidelity, physical safety, emotional well-being, and sexual satisfaction, cohabitation isn't exactly a recipe for happiness. Even USA Today reported, "Could this be true love? Test it with courtship, not cohabitation."x You may assume that if the couple had lived together a bit longer, they would have ironed out the difficulties and not had these problems in marriage. The studies show the opposite: longer cohabitations are associated with a higher likelihood of divorce.xi Now, even if you don't think that your boyfriend would be abusive or that you would get depressed, the divorce rate speaks for itself.

Like all of us, you dream of a lasting love. If you're serious about making this relationship work, save your marriage before it starts and don't move in until after the wedding.


I got this answer from a great source:

http://www.catholic.com/chastity/q7.asp

Good Luck! :)

Answer 6

I lived with a few boyfriends before getting married to my husband, and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My family had no issue with it either, and I was happier living with boyfriends than living in a share house of people anyway.

If you want to live with someone - go for it....as it turned out it was a very interesting time, I think we both learned from it, both about each other and ourselves. And there wasn't a messy, costly divorce after a few years..just a parting of the ways and a division of belongings.

Answer 7

Well I did it, but when I did it, I felt that I was going to marry him anyway, that it was more for convenience sake and to let my family get used to the idea. Looking back, I don't know if they really needed that time, and he had two young kids and I think we set a bad example by living together before getting married. I regret that the most, that I set that example for them.....but then I wasn't a stepmom or mommy yet, and I wasn't thinking about the kids that way yet....NOW....I still maintain that if I could redo anything, that would be it. I love my hubby, and we are a good match, but the example we set for his kids wasn't exactly brilliant! LOL

Answer 8

Live-in situations usually benefit the man more than the woman. He gets all the benefits of marriage, without being committed. He can leave whenever he decides to, and all the woman gets is screwed. Bottom line: it's not a good idea.

Answer 9

I know the "church people" would say that is "shacking up" but if that's what you want to do, I'm not gonna down you. Me and my fiance live together already, we plan to get married in a couple of more months. I see no problem with it. Can't nobody judge you but the man upstairs. So no one can get up her and insult you. That's your life, your business.

Hope this helps!

Answer 10

I know this will be an unpopular answer that will probably get a lot of thumbs down - but I think it's a bad idea - I'd never live with a man without the commitment of marriage.

Answer 11

Living together before marriage? Is that what you mean? I agree. Live with him or her first and see how it goes. Test the water before you drink it.