i made up my mind and im going to tell my parents that i am gay!!!!i just dont know how to start such a conversation!!!!im just tired of all the lies, about where i go and what im doing!!!
i went to a club on tuesday with really amazing people and they looked verry happy and free!!!I want that freedom!!!!so i decided to come clean and tell them!!any advice on how to start the conversation would be gr8!!!!
2007-03-22 01:45:56 · 9 answers · asked by (,'')Sweet guy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, did your parents ever doubt your sexuality?
If they didnt and have spent their whole life thinking that you are straight, i would recommend this:
A friend of mine also got tired of the double life he was leading and decided to tell his parents bout himself...
So he rentedthe movie "The Family Stone" and asked his family to sit down and watch the movie with him, it is a really great gay-positive movie, in which a gay couple are shown as PEOPLE and not some weird sex obsessed or derranged people with bad backgrounds, it also shows a very supportive and FUNCTIONAL family...after watching the movie with his family he told them that he is gay and that he has known about himself for more then 13 years now...it was very shocking to his parents and the father was not pleased, but he just told them that he loves them and does not want to continue lying to them for the rest of his life, it worked out fine in the end...
I hooe that this will be your case as well...
And please dont hesitate to contact me for anything, and let me know how it all goes...
Best of Luck and Courage
2007-03-22 02:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by BlueBoy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello friend,
I have a cousin gay.When he was at his 18 he revealed to me his sexuality, he didnt tell me before because he didnt wanted to risk our friendship, he thought that i would dislike him because i am straight. I really dont care because i love him and i want him to be happy. I dislike the fact he is gay but i still love him and that havent affect our relationship.
Then he start talking openly about his sexuality with his friends, all of the friends didnt care and they told him that its ok and they love him anyhow, with the exception of few that he really didnt need as friends...
Eventually he gained some confidence after being accepted by the nearest friends and family and then confronted the parents.
So be confident first, and whatever you parents say dont forget that they love whatever...They may dislike your sexuality character but that doesnt mean they dislike you...
I am not telling you what to do, you are to decide how when and where...The freedom of taking our own decisions is the only freedom we really have.
Use that freedom, be confident...Good luck friend hope i helped you.
2007-03-22 02:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i admire your honesty i could imagine that it cant be easy to tell your parents something like that, i woul not worry your parents love you and even if at first they react badly they will accept this, it doesnt change you but you have to understand that it may take a while. maybe start by telling them how you feel it, express your concern how they would feel about it, in the end of the day just be true to yourself they may surprise you, if they become angry dont fuel the fire just tell them you love them and give them some space. good luck i hope it all goes well with you, just remeber be true to yourself and your parents.
2007-03-22 01:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be a very difficult talk... but you'll feel so relieved once it is over...
I don't know if you are closer to either your mother than your father but maybe it's a good idea to tell just one of them first...
Do you have brothers or sisters who already know and who can stand by you?
But at the end you just have to tell them...
All the best of luck!
2007-03-22 02:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 07:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you! now that you are comfortable with who you are, I say, go for it! hiding who you are can make you miserable....I know from experience. I never flat out lied and pretended to be straight, I just didn't tell the whole truth for years. and my family and friends accept me.
there is some good info to check out on
www.pflag.org/
and
www.hrc.org/comingout
good luck to you!
2007-03-22 02:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Mum, dad, you know by telling a lie you need to tell another lie to cover the first one and so on. I have build a wall between us and I cannot stand it any more I need you and need to communicate with you freely...." And then break the news to them.
2007-03-22 02:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them!
2007-03-22 01:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
rethink! why do you have to tell? to come clean.....you will devastate them maybe? most people don't talk about their sexuality to their parents......or even friends......not sure about the gay community.....though....
2007-03-22 02:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by easy e 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋