He said "I miss you back".?

Question

I left my ex because he was unfaithful. I moved to another state to start a new life and he found someone else and got married. We have a son together. My ex calls the house weekly to stay in touch with Jr. Last night when I answered the phone, I told him that I missed him because I do so very much. To my surprise, he responsed back with the same. What exactly does that mean? In my heart, I know one day we'll get back together and grow old with one other. This time we have apart, I believe, has been good for me (can't speak for him) and it has taught me that you should put you man/husband/boyfriend first in your life.

I'm not married, he is.

Answer 1

I have two thoughts. One is don't wish his current marriage doom (because you love him). Don't do anything to harm his current situation. And secondly, how cool ... I think that's pretty sweet actually. Some bonds are deep and strong - this may be one of them. Also, if you two should ever get back together, ask him to put fell safes on your marriage - no more unfaithfulness in the future (an accountability person would cover this).

And as to what it means, it means he realizes that he let his soulmate go. He misses you. Be careful, you two are vulnerable, and though it may be right in the future, it's not right right now.

Answer 2

I could mean he does miss you. It could mean he feels guilty about cheating on you. It could mean he was being polite. It could mean he didn't want to start an argument. Don't put so much thought into his words, when his actions are so much more important.

His actions are that he calls weekly to talk to his son. Not enough in my book and certainly no reason for you to read into it.

His actions are he got married. That certainly does not suggest your heart is correct. There's no reason to believe that you will get back together and grow old together. That would be great, especially for your son, but there's nothing in you question that suggests it's a possibility.

Answer 3

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I left my ex because he was unfaithful. I moved to another state to start a new life and he found someone else and got married. We have a son together. My ex calls the house weekly to stay in touch with Jr. Last night when I answered the phone, I told him that I missed him because I do so very...

Answer 4

I wouldn't put too much credence into what he said back to you. He may have done it out of habit and familiarity. There's a reason he's your ex, just remember that. There is NO excuse for unfaithfulness in a marriage. If he wasn't happy with you he should have been man enough to confront you about it and then found another woman. Stay in contact with him for the sake of your son but for god sakes don't keep fantasizing that one day you'll be the happy family again. There's been too much damage done to your marriage for that to happen. Yeah, that sounds pessimistic I know. But its realistic and I'd rather get practical advice from people rather than be fed bulls***t. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

I think that is nonsense. You can't trust him, because he is already falling back into his old patterns with his new wife. Even if he has not strayed physically, he is already starting to be emotionally unfaithful by giving into feelings for you. Either that or he is playing you for a fool for his own ego. Look, he loved you so much that he cheated on you? Then he loved you so much that when you left, instead of trying to reconcile and make things right he just moved on and got married. If you really feel you should put your man first, look for a man worthy of that devotion.

Answer 6

He's married now don't add on to his problem of not being happy in his marriage. If he gets a divorce, let him do it because he wants to, not because the conversations got longer on the phone which they probably will and you pushed the issue that you want him there. He'll find his way back to you one day. But at the same time he might just be missing his son and wants you closer so he can see more of his son.

Answer 7

What it means is things are rough at home for your ex and he is looking for a safe and painless place to land for awhile. However, he cheated on you once and dumped you once and will do so again. Get over the fantasy what cheaters do consistently is cheat! He may honestly miss you but it won't change his basic instinct. Unless you want tons of pain quit playing with your own emotional well being get some counseling and move on. You deserve far better as do your children. By allowing him to come back you would be teaching your children that you believe his way is the correct way to treat a woman! Please tell me you don't think that way!

Answer 8

It doesn't really seem as though you have learned the leason of putting your husband first. You are married and talking to another man about missing him. I don't understand if you thought you would get back with your ex and live happily ever after why did you move on and marry?

Answer 9

I am not sure you've learned the right lesson. Any mother knows that the number one person in their life is their child(ren). As for your husband and his infidelity-- some things never change, if he had relationships outside of your union, and it seems he may out of his current one, why hold on to the thought of getting back with him? It seems youre only setting yourself up for more heartbreak.

Answer 10

You said he is remarried?? Hmmmmmmmm, Maybe you guys will eventually get back together someday, but honestly, I wouldn't wait around for that to happen. I'm sure he does miss you, and there will probably be a part of both of you that will always miss the other, but (I'm sorry) I think you would be smart to move on - You could possibly be setting yourself up for serious heartache, he is remarried - he has moved on, time for you to do the same.