My adoptive parents are the uptight Christian type. Two yeas ago i told them i was bi and they kicked me out of the house the day i turned 18 and never talked to me. Just on St. Patricks Day, they called me and asked me to visit acting like NOTHING happened! They said thai i should forgive them like God has, but hey should have forgiven me too! I REALLY need help.
2007-03-22 01:26:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, people change and maybe after all this time your step-parents have come to understand that a subject as minute as sexual orientation is not something that should break family apart, on top of that if the question arises just try to approach this whole thing froma scientific and psychological point of view, saying that it is not a disease, a form of mental retardation, but simple what you are...there is a line that almost always works...Do you really care who i chose to spend the night in bed with?
Hope it all works out...
2007-03-22 01:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by BlueBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step parents are reaching out to you. Yes! You were hurt by what they did and you'll most likely never forget it but to forgive is a wonderful thing. Maybe they have talked to someone who enlighten them-maybe.
If it was me, I would go visit but keeping an open mind. At the first sign of a problem, I WOULD NOT SAY ANOTHER WORD , just get up and leave.
As for you- do you need forgiveness for what you are? Don't think so. God made you just the way He/She wanted you to be.
2007-03-22 08:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to see you that's good, just take the precaustion of meeting them in a public place such as a restaurant and that way neither side can make a scene. It's good that they have put it behind them and you need to do the samething but because of how they are just take that added precaustion that I suggested and if things don't work out so be it, just tell them that you will always love them and that if they can't accept you the that is THEIR loss. Good luck.
2007-03-22 08:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're really trying to accept you. My parents are "uptight Christian types" too, and it's taken them almost a decade to get used to me being gay - but they're really trying. Give them a chance, but let them know that they don't get to pick and choose pieces of you to love - it's all or nothing.
2007-03-22 09:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have had a change of heart. You can forgive what they did, but I doubt you will ever forget. Just go in with an open mind.
2007-03-22 08:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aside from telling you those things?did they actually change their attitude towards you? if not how could you forgive?
if yes, forgive them like how God did..do you believe in God?coz if you believe you should forgive them eventhough they are not doing something to ease the pain you feel
2007-03-22 08:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by chat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they feel bad for the way they reacted so i say yes forgive them but if you forgive them for that then they must just come to terms with the fact that you are bi!!!!Remember that you are not the one that was wrong!!!
2007-03-22 08:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by (,'')Sweet guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christians are human too. They make mistakes, say things they wish they hadn't, and do things they wish they didn't do. Try to forgive them and you will be happier yourself. If they do not reciprocate then you will know that you tried.
2007-03-22 08:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by mark g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sheesh!!! that's a huge question... I'd probably try to give em a second chance, but I'd also bring a supportive friend to help me get the hell out of there if it's some crazy intervention or something.. joking aside, find support and follow your heart... don't let them belittle you...
2007-03-22 08:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like nothing happened !!! I don't care if it's two days or two years. I would begin my life without these " uptight Christian types". Don't let them take you down, which they will if you let them. Your 20, enjoy your life.
2007-03-22 09:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by bluei 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋