I have been with my fiance' for 7 years. We have sex mabey once a month. When we first got together it was every 2 weeks on the dot. (I wasnt happy with that) I find him so attractive. I want to have sex all the time if I could. When we do have sex he is very selfish and he gets off and he doesnt take care of me. I have to ask for it! He says that he has been on to many muscle relaxers due to a bad back injury......so he cant get it up. So when he does get it up he wants to take care of it right then and there. Whats the deal........is it me? I am not ugly or fat or old...........lol Why won't he go down on me? Hell, why wont he do anything for me? i finally quit asking because I got tired of rejection. I love him very much and really dig him.........he is wayyyy sexy to me............. I just dont understand............
2007-03-22 01:04:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
If he's not willing to take care of you in bed then it's going to become an even bigger problem as time goes on.
Do you want to be sitting there for the next fifty+ years not having the sex you deserve and crave?
If he cares about you as much as he should, he'll want to make sure you're taken care of in the bedroom.
You need to bring this up with him outside of the bedroom and get to the root of the issue. If he's not willing to change are you willing to settle? It's a tough choice, I know, when you love someone.
2007-03-22 12:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Rayvin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for seven years, and this hasn't changed. Nothing will change in the future - except maybe there will be less sex. If this is an important issue for you, you seriously need to consider finding another relationship. It's difficult to change other people - and when the issue is sex drive, there is no way to fix it.
2007-03-22 09:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you need to move on. I'm a male and I really enjoy making a lady have orgasms. He should give you lots of oral, and play with that clitoris. If he want give you the foreplay you need then look else where. It want get any better with him. You need somebody who wants you to feel good and deserves you. Need to email me.
2007-03-22 14:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry him.
Dump him. There are plenty of other people you could share your life with who you could be much happier with.
Frankly, there are quite a few women who would be very happy with him. Let one of them have him.
2007-03-22 15:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is a selfish dolt and you are allowing him to be. You need to move on
2007-03-22 08:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by jonnyraven 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is a selfish dolt and your waisting time with him.
2007-03-22 08:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by milittleguy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe your are in the wrong relationship. one, he is getting some from some where else than you...two, he is gay ......and really try looking into these two...good luck ......
2007-03-22 08:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋