why do so many teenagers become mums at young age?

Question

is it the fact that we dont want to know much about our kids or they are not getting enough advise

Answer 1

They want a house and the 'joys' of having their own home, paid for by the taxpayer and living off benefits!!

Answer 2

Some because of ignorance but in this day and age not alot all these people saying children aren't taught enough about sex ed your wrong the fact we even had sex ed is testament to that. In my mothers generation the teenage pregnancy rate was not as high as not and they definitely didn't have sex ed classes it was a such a taboo so if poor information was the reason the number of teenage mums should be lower now. I think alot of the culture of teenage mums has to do with, people not aspiring to be anything other then what they see around them. They can't see past being anything more then a mother i think this has more to do with general education then sex ed.
Some unfortunate teenagers just have an accident which they take responsibility for (because by choice i would rather have been a teenage mother statistic then another teenager who has abortions without a second thought as some form of birth control).
One thing that gets me mad about today's society is that although a mum may not be a teenager and just look you certain people would automatically assume so and judge. Eg my sister was 21years old when she had her daughter (she looks young and still gets ID went out in pubs (UK) but still gets looks and odd comments from people usually those of pension drawing age.

Answer 3

from experience i wanted a baby from when i was 14. I wanted one cos things at home werent all that good and i saw it as a way to be accepted as a grown up and to have my own family that love me unconditionally, of course i never considered the cost cos like all teenagers i was sure id have a big mansion a great career a family own house complete with hubby and a dog..... Luckily it took me 4 years to fall pregnant and only at that time did i first realise the cost of living, the balance of work and family life, the fact i was nmarried and my relationship wasnt stable and whem my daughter came along everything i was sure it would be it wasnt. Its only when its too late do you realise that kids arent another play thing and that they really are a huge responsibility. I gave up my whole life to rear my daughter sngle handedly and only now am i enrolling into college to make something of my life (she 3 now) and also i am expecting again (accidently) but now after a long haul ive met someone settled down and were happy but it wasnt the happy road i imagined to get here and kids just dont see that...
My advice to any teen is no one wanted a baby more than did but i learnt when i held my daughter in my arms the first time i did her a huge injustice by selfishly bringing her into the world without a stable family around us, i wouldnt change her for the world now but i learnt that she was worth the wait and if i could have waited a few more years i could have given her a much better life and a much better example to follow..

Answer 4

ok, I'm a pregnant teen, an all of u are saying '' bad upbringing'' an blame parents. . . .
NO we make our own choices, We all know wat we are doing an the choice we are making. . . .
So no blame should be put on the parents in anyway shape or form. . . .

An as for the person saying that teens in the UK get everything given to them are WRONG i applied for a place from the council, they make u wait until the baby is around 3 years old before giving u a home, cuz there is such a shortage of flats and houses now. . . .an as for the money thing, i could make some very nasty comments bu wont. I don't like that all teen mums are being judged by the few teens who do blame their parents an dump their children.
I know plenty of people who have children an are doing very well an love them, There are bad parents no matter what the age is, so please if judgements are going to be made make it on all parents of all ages.

Ive seen websites which say that our children ''teen mums children'' will turn out stupid, thick, an criminals an it makes me angry that i am being judged by people who don't know who i am. an judging my child before he is even born.

Answer 5

Ethanmommy i agree i have a 14 year old who has just had a baby she came from a very loving home i am firm but fair 1st time of having sex condom split, now i know she should of not been having sex at that age im not condoning that but do parents really know what their children get up too, i don't think its fair that people point the finger at the parents, i have 4 children i 18 year old in the police force 16 year old at college and a 3 year old who speaks french and English which her dad taught her, I'm not saying I'm perfect which i don't think there is any perfect parents, i think sum teenagers are just unlucky, my daughter goes to a unit and looking forward to going to Brit school which i will care for the baby while she goes and not cash in on the government her baby father whom is 14 as well has a weekend job to help support his son, its not always the up bringing that the children have it just works out that way!!!!!!

Answer 6

Young girls often feel "grown up" before they are emotionally mature--they WANT a steady, loving relationship, which nowadays is often sadly missing from their homelife, so they believe the Hollywood lie on TV and movies that "love is forever" and makes life perfect. They also swallow the media lie that sex=love, when we all know it doesn't. Sex=sex, pure and simple, especially for males! So they reach out for some affection and understanding and get sperm in exchange. The boy is often very young too and is just looking to have it away, he's not thinking about consequences either.
The young think that problems only happen to other people, that they themselves are somehow immortal and nothing bad will ever happen--until it does.
Young girls also want/need to be "like everyone else" so if their friends talk about having sex (whether it's true or not) they feel like they "have to" in order to be an accepted member of the group. And if their boyfriend of the moment is pressuring them too to "prove their love" by giving in, well there you are.
It's tragic that so many young girls don't feel that they can turn to their mothers or family for advice--they're often terrified to bring the subject up because they know they'll just get a bollocking.

Answer 7

because if they weren't teenagers, they wouldnt' b young mums now would they? people like u bug me, ur prob sitting there thinking taht all teens can't be bothered to get a job so have babies instead, or had a bad upbringing so would kno any better. i fell pregnant at 19, so would u class me as a stupid kid who can't be bothered to get a job? or who comes from a typical single parents family? or has no education?
well if u do ur so wrong. i fell pregnant at 19 evn tho i used protection, but my baby is the best thing thats ever happened to me and i wouldn't change her for the world, and shes not evn born yet! i have a job, i'm 8 months pregnant and STILL working because i hate sitting around doing nothing! i'm now 20, own my house, have enrolled at open uni have 10 GCSE's, 5 A levels, and yes, i come from a single parents family, but that does not make me what you imagin me 2 be.

i suggest you grow up asap and see the world as it really is, not just what u assume it to be.
did u ever learn of something in school about how people expect others to behave? well, say in a class a teacher walks in, assuming her class will fail everything, 9 times out of 10 the class will, purely because she gave off the vibe that they'd fail. its the same with how you think of teens, the more you assume they'll get pregnant younger and younger, the more they will. if the UK tried treating them with the respect we'd as olders would expect from them, i dare say we'd see a huge improvement in teenage pregnancy and crime rates!

Answer 8

Because everything in their bodies are telling them to to have sex!! Our society has made growing more than a fourth of our lives - thats not how it was originally.. Originally a girl was considered a woman by age 15 or so and married off. Now we think that a girl should wait until marriage (and marriage age getting older and older) but most cant wait until they are 22 or 24 or 26 for marriage. Many cant wait until they are past 15 because their bodies are saying yes when only mom and dad are saying NO.

Answer 9

Because its easy to get a house from the council receive benefits from the state and never have to work again. Its people like us who pay tax who have to pay for these single mums They think its big to have babies when 13/15 and rely on us tax payers to look after them .I am from the uk and there are many teenage mums in this country. I blame the state for handing out so many benefits, So this is the reason for so many teenage pregnancies.

Answer 10

I agree with what "anna" said.

And for those people that said, that girls do it to get a free house and benefits don't know the facts.

One of my friends had a baby at 17, it took months for her benefits to be paid and she had to rely on her Mum for money while she wasn't receiving benefits. And benefits aren't a lot of money and most Mums spend the majority of their income on their children, because they want the best for them.

The HOSTEL she got put in was unclean, shabby and cramped. She lives with her Mum still when she can, but her Mums house is also cramped and she can't always stay there.

So please people, don't assume that these girls have it easy, because they don't. Some girls are able to dump their babies on family members, but lots don't and are too proud to ask for help.

Answer 11

allsorts of reasons, lack of sex ed, television, playgroud gossip. I did exactly the same for the reasons I listed above pretty much, and I've only just stopped working now because I am pregnant with y 2nd child. I also have a degree in IT. Not all teenage mum's are benefit-scrounging chavs!!