Does Any Of The Adults Reading This Swear BY The Smack?

Question

I ask the above because I was brought up in a strict but loving home.

I regularly got a back hander for stepping out of line. And to this day I am grateful for the discipline I recieved.

Now the 'powers that be' state that you should not hit a child because (not 100% sure how it is worded) it gives the ok for physical violence?????????

Today the children are unruly and have no respect for other people or anyone elses property.

Does anyone think that if a 'smack' was allowed some of these
issues would not surface through fear of being punished.

(Excuse me but I am 39 yrs old and I am old school)

Thanking you

Answer 1

I too was raised in a strict but loving home and was also on the receiving end of a backhander to keep me in line, and I too do not feel it has done any harm, but has done a lot of good.
It's all very well for people to say you shouldn't smack your kids, but I disagree. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying beat your kids but you can't reason with a 2year old!!! and if you can't reason with them they need to know right from wrong. I do smack my kids bum so they know something is wrong. I don't use a belt, wooden spoon etc I don't think it is necessary, and that it is a form of abuse.
Unfortunately it is hard because there are people who do take it too far, and I can't condone harming your kids. I think every parent has to find their own way of keeping their kids on the straight and narrow.
I do think that some form of punishment should be enforced by parents, so that delinquent behaviour is reduced, I do think it should be a parents decision and that it should be something the children do not want to happen. Only a parent will know what works with their kids as they are all different.
Hope this rambling made some sense :-)
Good question by the way

Answer 2

As far as I am aware, there are no laws on the books that say you cannot discipline your child as you see fit. naturally there are plenty of laws that govern going too far but a spanking with a hand or any other object designed by its use not to inflict permanent damage or injury or excessive pain is perfectly legal. Now a case worker from protective services will disagree but any cop wouldn't.

I have spanked my 10 year old maybe 10 times in her life. Never more than 4 whacks on the butt over my knee, but to ask her you'd think I gave her 20 whacks.Part of the game is psychological. When I am done I let her sit for a few minutes then go back and talk to her. I tell her I love her and asked why I had to discipline her. I explain why and make sure she understands and once its over I kiss and hug her and never bring up the incident again. It has worked wonderfully.

Answer 3

I got spanked and am a responsible citizen. Never been in Jail, pay my bills and get along well with people.

All three of my children were spanked when they deserved it but were also given hugs and laughter in greater measure. All three are responsible, productive and happy citizens.

You are right about the people today who have no fear of discipline. The lack of firm discipline and consequences for their actions is th thing most likely to crash our society. It certainly hasn't become a better world since spankings went out of fashion. The relationship is pretty obvious to any thinking person.

50 year old father of three and grandfather of two.

Answer 4

Spare the rod and spoil the child. I got whacked when I was in school and disrupted the class. I got spanked at home when I needed it. I say let the teachers use the paddle when needed, what the kids get away with in school bleeds over into society same as with what they get away with at home.People, discipline your children!

Answer 5

I got smacked in the mouth(not hard) a couple of times for sassing or mouthing off. It didn't take me long to learn to respect my elders. I got spanked too. That also worked. There is a big difference in spanking and abuse. age 52--old school too

Answer 6

My parents did ,but I had to break the cycle and dont .I have never and never will smack my kids .If I need to smack them I must have brought them up wrong and then I am the one who needs the smack .I am older school and am 49 .

Answer 7

Do you really think he best way to teach children right from wrong is to hit them? I can't think of any circumstance that would bring me to strike my daughter. Ever.
At what age is corporal punishment OK? Two, three?When do you stop? Sixteen or seventeen?
Violence should be the last resort to any situation, not the routine.

Answer 8

Only if necessary do I smack my son. And no smacking doesn't incite a child to violence and no smacking is not abuse. There is a difference.

Answer 9

its called child abuse if and only if you leave welts and bruises on them but i belive in spanking because i dont want my child ending up like those bad *** children on maury povich and the children these days are very rude and very disrespectful to their elders etc.

Answer 10

I got the smack when I needed it (yes, at times I NEEDED it), but I was never abused.