in my small town; i have told very few people that i am gay--and i get the same response from all of them. i am not a stereotypical gay man, i happen to be quite an outdoorsman and love a good fight every now and then. how do i get these people to understand that i am gay without compromising my personality? btw i have explicitly told these select few about my desire for other guys--and guess what--they actually thought i was just messing with them. any man that says what i said to them is definately gay. WTF i am going to freak on them. lol
2007-03-22 00:15:15 · 5 answers · asked by sebastian 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
great opportunity for you to stand up and break some myths about us queers... and don't sweat what people think about you, in either direction, if they're not ready to accept it, they're not ready.. give em time... and find more supportive friends...
2007-03-22 01:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is interesting that in your question you actually state that "I am not a steriotypical gay man".. hence there lies your answer. Unless people, know a person personally and see that, people are just people, and sexual orientation is just one part of the whole, then of course people will assume there to be a "gay steriotype". This steriotyping comes largely from the media where most people, get their information from, unless of course they have a relative or friend who "comes out to them". People do not have their sexual orientation stamped on their foreheads. People are individuals.
Also, you pointed out that the things that make you not a "steriotypical gay man" are also steriotypical (as in re-enforced gender norms" of what is percieved to be as manliness.
Stereotypes act like codes that give audiences a quick, common understanding of a person or group of people—usually relating to their class, ethnicity or race, gender, sexual orientation, social role or occupation.
But stereotypes can be problematic. They can:
reduce a wide range of differences in people to simplistic categorizations, transform assumptions about particular groups of people into "realities", be used to justify the position of those in power
and perpetuate social prejudice and inequality
2007-03-22 03:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Orditz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it hink that you should run in circles and if you really trust those friends have them sit down with you and just tell them...I AM GAY...without any turn abouts...if they are your true friends they will accept you as you are...
hope it all works out for you...
2007-03-22 02:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by BlueBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can't comprehend it that is their problem. I have a gay male friend that loves to go to the gym, jog and other things. These activities are not restricted to those of us who are straight.
2007-03-22 01:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably should just have hot sex with me right out in the town square, I think they'd get the point then.
2007-03-22 08:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋