my frnds nd i had this fight because/where i was backing up a girl who they blamed for stuff she didn't do.....they stopped talking to that girl nd me....but now they are talking to that girl too nd are trying to completely isolate me so that i dont have a single frnd with me in the whole class....though that girl is with me right now....i feel scared.....wat do i do?? i'll b all alone in class.........HELP!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 00:03:02 · 7 answers · asked by supreety2k 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Can I tell you what happened to me once? When I was in the 8th grade, I tried out for cheerleader. The teachers of this school decided the outcome and so, three of the four popular choices were met, and me. My mom pulled up right about the time they were announcing their decision and so, everyone went inside and the doors were locked. I went up to a window so that I could hear and what do you know, I made it. I was outside so I screamed and jumped up and down with excitement. THis apparently, was the salt to the wounds of the fourth popular girl, non-elected, very scorned. Turns out, the worst thing I could have ever done is make cheerleader that year. None of the girls talked to me, they were taking surveys to see if anyone liked me, the boys would call me dog, and howl at me in the halls. One boy even brought a can of Allpo and gave it to me. The girls that I shared a gym locker with, gave the boys my swimsuit, who threw it up on top of the school, so I got in trouble for not dressing down. Life was a living hell, and then it got worse. I left town for the summer before any of this blew over. I spent the whole summer agonizing over what things were going to be like when I got home. I felt so utterly alone and afraid, and could not understand any of it.
It turns out that it did not just blow over, I had to stand up for myself and point out that if this other person was not choose to be cheerleader then clearly she did not act like one nor represent the school in that capacity. I had to literally fight with a boy that would not get out of my face and calling me dog. I had to take hard earned money and buy a new swimsuit because my parents were mad that I ended up not having one. Nobody in the world liked me, they even went as far as to see about adding a 5th cheerleader or having another tryouts, probably rigged, to give this other person another chance. I was a good cheerleader that had all the school spirit in the world and nobody wanted me.
So my comment is this. Sometimes, there isn't a thing in the world that you can do about it. Either make new friends, ones that do not punish you for telling the truth, kiss *** to the liars, stop sticking up for the injured or realize that you should not feel bad for do the right thing. Of corse they started talking to that poor girl and not you, that is how they choose to drive the message that they will not be contridicted, home. take heart and wait for the next day and see how things are then.
2007-03-22 00:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by lisa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being treated like that when I was at school. I know that it will all soon end for you, as they try to make friends with you again one by one.They will whisper to you that they are still your friend but don't tell anyone. I am 41 years old with a teenage daughter of my own who goes through the same thing. Boys don't fall out like that, its a girl thing.
You have to pretend that you are not affected by their behavior.
Go about your business in school & just get on with your work. Besides thats what school should really be about! When they see that you are not that bothered they won't like the fact that they are now the ones being ignored.The ball is in your court.They will start to creep round you trying to make friends.Don't give in too easierly though.Make it hard for them to make friends.That way they won't be in such a hurry to fall out again next time.They will think twice.Hang around with boys instead.They are much more fun & treat you with respect. I did when I was young & still do as they are the best friends.
2007-03-22 00:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Another Planet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please note it is normal to have differences among friends in a class. You may feel isolated for sometimebut iam sure if you can change your style of talking and behave like a cofident person you can get back some of your friends.
Please keep your mind focused on your studiesand develop selficonfidence.We need good friends not anybody.
Keep good company only for a happy life.Good luck.
2007-03-22 00:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you wont! dont you dare be scared of these bullies coz thats all they are, they were hurt that you defended someone above them, and they were intimadated by your bravery, so this is the only way they know how to hurt you, act like nothings wrong, laugh aloud, smile talk to the boys in your class, wear makeup and look happy and out goin and theyll soon think theres nothing getting to you, and the more popular you get the more jealous they will get, and soon theyll be sucking up to you for your friendship, i know how these girls work, talk to the boys, thatll kill them! and be yourself, remember, your on a mission so dont be scared get even!
and this girl you defended sounds like a right ***** for not defending you too!
2007-03-22 00:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by Laura G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them in a crowd and toss them an M67 hand-grenade, they won't want to hang together much after that, well, those that survive that is.
Seriously though it's what happens, and it's what happened to me throughout most of high-school and college, but I applied myself to my work, I have my own company now, and the most these people are doing is spitting in my burger at their crummy McJobs.
2007-03-22 00:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Scott Bull 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will probably be over by next week. If they started talking to the girl you defended, they'll start talking to you again. Just don't let it bother you. It will pass soon enough and if it doesn't, start making new friends so your old friends can see that you can survive without them.
2007-03-22 00:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jim B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teenagers are dic-ks. your friends sound like proper A holes too, you sound like you are mature enough to handle this in a grown up fashion, dont let them see that it bothers you.
i had exactly the same thing. you'll all be friends and pretending this didn't happen in a day at the most.
2007-03-22 00:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Zen禅Maiden :ジェダイ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋