How do you prevent yourself of being too senstive and taking offence at the slightest thing?

Question

What is the answer........as how I am is cracking me up!

I find it difficult to get people to listen to me as a person and are very dismissive of me. Ought I try and be more assertive would that help do you think?

Answer 1

How dare you nick my Helmet as I sleep, tired from my battles against the slave masters!


Sensitivity isn't a wholly bad thing. But it can be the source of anguish. Maybe time (as with many issues) holds and brings the answers.

Answer 2

It sounds like your problem is that you take yourself a bit too seriously and therefore any negative energy people send your way you take personally. I know because I used to have exactly the same problem and used to get wound up really easily at the slightest thing but I learnt the hard way that the more wound up you get the more people will provoke you. People like to provoke a reaction and if you give them that reaction they will feed off it and come back for more and more.

Essentially you need to lighten up and realise that when people are having a go or teasing you it is nothing personal. They are either venting insecurities in themselves or letting out stress or just having a laugh. People who are sensitive operate almost exclusively from their ego and any attack will go straight to their ego and the ego will feel attacked and defensive. If somebody attacks you, they are acting from their own ego and you need to realise this in order to not allow it to affect your ego.

As soon as they say something, let it bounce off you, don't react and immediately forget about it. Focus on the feelings that it produces. Just focus on it with your mind but do not allow the feeling to turn into thought. Just put all your attention on it, without thought and you will feel it dissolve. Emotions cannot carry on without the fuel of thought. Without this thought, the emotion will eventually run out of "gas" and eventually this will become instinctive.

Lighten up, don't take things so seriosuly/personally, don't let emotions turn into thoughts.

Learn to laugh at yourself for if you cannot laugh at yourself, others will do it for you.

Answer 3

I think a person needs to be self-assured enough not to be too sensitive. When you have a lot of goals to reach, you work all the time and you don't have time to pay attention on thousands of silly stuff. But if you are too free and have nothing to do you have a great possibility to concentrate on finding reasons to be offended. A person should be busy, have some results and thought and emotions to share with the others not to be too terribly sensitive.

Answer 4

This sounds like a self esteem issue. If you're willing to try assertiveness training or see a counsellor or (accredited!) hypnotherapist, that would probably be very good for you. Try telling yourself not to take things to heart and realise that you're being oversenstive and that other people really aren't trying to offend you or be dismissive. I used to be exactly the same, so take it from me, you can make it better for yourself!

Answer 5

Try not to take things personally. Look at the positive side of life, rather than negatives or resistance to new ideas or feedback. Enjoy and live life to the full each day. Try to keep calm and you may find that this will help you to cope.

Answer 6

Become a loud mouth, insensitive jerk. The only problem is that you probably won't like yourself then so here's my advice.
Like who you are...it's a good start and than work out for yourself if you actually are being too sensitive. If you are then apologise to the affected person if your not then rid yourself of the offensive, insensitive jerk who is hurting your feelings.
Best Wishes

Answer 7

depends on why you are like that, could be your personality or it could be linked to stress depression etc

Assertive yes, aggressive no be careful, maybe just take a long look at yourself what are the positives/negatives, then focus on the positives. Maybe you're quiet, if you want someone to listen to you, say their name and give them et=ye contact, smile and put your point of view across
Good luck xx

Answer 8

Get a friend to sit on a chair facing you. You have to sit still, stare straight ahead without moving, smiling, getting cross or speaking. Your friend then says things to try & get you to flare up, move etc. By doing that, he / she is de-sensitising your buttons (i.e. the words people use which upset you). I think this process is called "building your confront."

Answer 9

Sounds like a confidence issue. If you are confident within yourself then you wont care what other's say or think about you.

Answer 10

you care what people think about you. not an easy thing to change. Pick the poeple around you wisely