I love my boyfriend we have been together since Oct 2005 we have been through so much together and it has made us so much stronger we are planning a family together and we live together we share all our money and love to spend time together whats your advice
2007-03-21 23:40:14 · 23 answers · asked by DEBORAH A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have joked about it but never really spoken seriously about it. I did tell him at the start of our relationship though that I would never get married maybe this is why he has never asked!
2007-03-21 23:51:37 · update #1
Go for it!
2007-03-21 23:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my girlfriend since 2000 and was sure that I would never propose as we were happy as we were and we are not religious (at all).
Then one night we were talking in bed about what to do with a little extra money that we had saved and what we could use it for.
We decided on a conservatory, I said that I hope we don't get any more as we can never decide what to do with it. She jokingly suggested a wedding.
I didn't sleep for the rest of the night thinking about why we didn't get married we just kinda accepted that we wouldn't.
1 month later I proposed (ring and all), the reaction was amazing.
We are getting married in August this year.
Sorry to go on and on, but the point of the story is. All I needed was a little prompt into action to make me see what i was missing.
Maybe your man just need that little push too!
(No conservatory for a while yet)
2007-03-25 06:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, if you're planning all these other things together, why hasn't the topic of marriage come up yet?
It sounds to me like someone is avoiding it, maybe they don't believe in the marriage institution or the idea of marriage. If you feel strongly that you want to get married along with these other plans, then I would say that you should propose to him.
These days, there is no typical characteristic in a relationship of who proposes to who, and there are many cases of people living together and starting a family without being married.
Good luck, do what you feel is best.
2007-03-22 06:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by ski4ever1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not directly. Why not ask him how he feels about getting married. If you don't want to end up a single mum, make sure of his intentions before you take the leap into motherhood. If he beats around the bush at the thought of getting married then you can be pretty sure he doesn't want to be tied down. If that's the case then you have to make the decission - stay or start afresh.
Sure that can be a hard decission to make but would you rather continue on another 5 years and end up with a couple of kids to a guy who won't commit to you and might suddenly decide its all too difficult and just walk out on you?
2007-03-22 06:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Traveller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the very nature of asking this question you are obviously ready to take the relationship to the next level. You want a marital relationship and probably the family that goes with it.
So ask him!
He will be ready to move with you to the next level or he may decide that you are not right for him or he may want more time.
Either way this will let him know how you stand and will let him know the time has come for him to make a decision. (Guys have a hard time with that.)
With that question answered you will be able to progress in your life where now you are at a stand still. (Asking for help on Yahoo is definitely a stand still.)
Remember you are an important person and your time is too valuable to waste.
2007-03-22 07:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Golden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you're joking about getting married, continue the discussion and start with "but seriously" and see if that will prompt a serious discussion about "marriage". You may also want to let him know that you really do want to get married someday (soon) and that you would like it to be him.
Ask him what he thinks about marriage in general, how he feels about it, and how he feels about you. If his words and actions tell you he is not walking the same road as you, you may need to re-think your relationship altogether.
2007-03-25 19:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do all that you say you do why have you not got married.? Have you both ever sat down and discussed this matter and if you have what was the result.
If you have not done which I feel is strange I would suggest that you do it now and make your own decision and not be depending on others to tell you how to make this giant step.
2007-03-22 06:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Eddie Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since the relationship is of a married nature you should propose. Get married because its the right thing to do if you mutually feel its the next step.
2007-03-22 06:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get married then you should let him know, this is the twentieth century. Don't let your pride get in the way of what you want. Sit down and let him know how you feel if he doesn't want to get married then you will have to decide what to do are you willing to share life with him as common law partner?
2007-03-24 08:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by dogcatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should ask him to marry you. Iv been with my partner for about 8 years, we found out that we were expecting our first child an i decided to ask him to marry me an he said yes. We still aint married yet though, but i am working on it ha ha. I think that if its the right thing to do for you then go for it.
2007-03-22 06:49:15 · answer #10 · answered by joroberts84@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, looks like you both are very compatible. tell him you want to settle down, you are planning a family together so you want to go through the proper channel. tell him you have changed your idea and now want toget married because you love him and want to be his legal wife.
best of luck. hope everything works out.
2007-03-22 10:34:03 · answer #11 · answered by havillah k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋