How do i trust my Girlfriend? Should it be natural? I have always had trust issues dated from childhood. I want to more than anything because its driving us apart and i dont want to lose her and for my peice of mind. What can i do to help?
2007-03-21 23:38:20 · 16 answers · asked by AJ21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its easy people say in you've got to trust her but from experience i know its the worst place to be cos you really want to trust her and deep inside you do but you just cant help feeling like that, me and my gf had to finish because of it but we got back together a month after and that feeling went away so maybe a break would do it. good luck mate
2007-03-22 00:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is that there has to be trust in any relationship - you say that you have had trust issues since childhood and obviously this seems to be the root of your current problem.
Have you considered seeing a counsellor/therapist about these issues - you may find that by talking to someone who is totally independant of you and your family may actually help you to move forward with your life and put some of your ghosts to bed.
Your girlfriend will also see that you are committed to sorting your issues out and more importantly committed to her.
2007-03-22 07:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have been let down somewhere in your chilhood by someone you trusted. This can be difficult to put behind you but unless you have a very good reason not to trust your girlfriend then draw a line under the past and look upon this as an opportunity to form a real and lasting relationshipbased on mutual trust. You do not have to be enslaved by the past, so look at your relationship,are you loved, do you love her, if you do then you will trust her.
2007-03-22 06:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by irisheyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really and truly love this girl you have to trust her or there is absolutely no point to your relationship together, were there is no trust there is no love, sit down together and talk about your childhood issues, sorry but you are going to have to if you want this sorting out and hopefully she will understand and you can both put this behind you and move onto to a much better type of love between you, good luck.
2007-03-22 11:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I had the same problem as you do. I felt I could not trust my partner, even though he had done nothing wrong. I had been so let down in the past, so I think my lack of trust was connected to
that. I do trust him now as I realise those thoughts are irrational. I feel that he really loves me so I can put my trust in
him. Tell your partner about your childhood issues so as she can understand why you feel this way. She may be able to help. I think it is better to trust and be let down, than to accuse and be mistaken.
2007-03-22 07:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by poons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happens, you'd better keep in mind that this is *your* fault. It'll always be easy to find things to blame her for, but from the sound of it, it's your lack of trust, not her untrustworthy actions.
If you want to stop this, it seems to me that you *have* to constantly remind yourself that you're hypersensitive and incline to fly off the handle without good reason. Maybe your mantra should be 'I'm a paranoid loony', and this could help you maintain your bearings when things happen that set you off.
Good luck,
CD
2007-03-22 07:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite simple really,either you trust her or you don't. If you don't ,tell her and give the girl peace of mind. I would suggest that you see someone about this hang up you have before it destroys you in ever getting into a meanwhile relationship.
2007-03-22 06:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by Eddie Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are the one with the trust issues, get help. Find someone you can talk to about it and try to deal with it or this will continue to happen with this girl and probably other girls too.
2007-03-22 06:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you should try to do is just let go or go back to the past and think when was it that u wee hurt and who hurt you coz trust is a very important part of life and we just have to try.just let go and tell ur girl so she can help u and be patient with u.i know u will pull thur.
2007-03-22 06:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you got any reason not to trust you girlfriend? if the answer is no then thats a start. maybe you need to sit down and talk to her about it and see what happens
2007-03-22 06:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by joflint2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋