I'm so tired of sitting at a dinner table feeling invisible while my husband schmoozes with his shallow co-workers (he's a photographer). The conversations are sometimes frustrating to sit through and I often find myself praying for the night to end quickly. I want to be there to show my support for him, because that's important to me, but does anyone have any suggestions as to how to make those evenings more bearable? We love each other very much but is it normal to feel so disconnected from him in the presence of his coworkers?
Also, do you hate going to these things? If so, why?
2007-03-21 23:17:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should also mention that I don't mean to imply that photographers are shallow, and my husband certainly isn't (he's a sweetie!) but his industry does attract a lot of people who are obsessed with image and/or exploiting other people's pain for the sake of their own career.
2007-03-22 01:46:32 · update #1
I am exactly like you. I think i have only ever been to about 3 of my partners office party's an hated every minute off it. I think the only way you can sit an bare it is to have a few drinks.... But not to many! ha ha. I know we should go to support them but its just so boring.
I am a full time mum, i stay home most of the time so when i go out i like to unwind but when you go out with them it feels like u have to be on your best behaviour.
Most of the time i don't even like the food that is on order, so i don't eat. Its horrible to feel that way but it only happens once a year for me so i just grin an bare it an have a few drinks.....
2007-03-22 00:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by joroberts84@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to feel invisible in this scenario. The way I see it, you have three choices:
1) Grin and bear it
2) Make friends with another "wife" that you can talk to during the dinners
3) Talk to your spouse and ask him to include you in his "schmoozing".
The unfortunate thing about photography (I'm in the beginning phases of becoming a photographer) is that success is mainly contributed to networking. Having to network means having to be in every circle all the time, and these parties are a great way to stay "visible" for him.
I'd say support him, and try to make the best of it. No one wants to be invisible, but the important thing is that these necessary events go well.
good luck!
2007-03-22 06:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by ski4ever1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I don't know anyone and feel like an accessory.
One time I was talking to her co worker (also female) and she rushed over to pull me somewhere else. bored with her chatting to her friends and no way to join in because they all talk shop.
2007-03-22 06:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My company didn't invite spouses to the company parties which got up the spouses noses even more.
2007-03-22 06:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by Del Piero 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no desire to mingle and get to know anyone else's coworkers. I only go for the free food and booze.
2007-03-22 07:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm never invited so count yourself lucky.
2007-03-22 06:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Invisible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋