I was discussing with my girlfriend last night about previous relationships I am 27 & she is almost 27. She told me that when she was in University that she had a threesome with two blokes & it was the one time she has ever been totally turned on & that it would take a lot to top that! I didnt think that it would bother me & its not the fact that she has done it, its the fact that I feel like I dont totally turn her on now & it has made me feel a bit inadequate! That may sound silly but it is just playing on my mind. Am I stupid to be thinking like this or should I do something about it?
2007-03-21 23:15:01 · 16 answers · asked by richardwales79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nah dont worry about it! Unless she is suggesting u guys should have a 3some? But its not even about being totally turned on the SEX part aint everything right! Theres other things to the relationship and shes just mentioning an amazing experience she had! At the end of the day ... every different guy a girl is with they are different some may turn u on more then others but thats just to do with the connection in the bedroom but its takes more then the stuff in the BEDroom for a good relationship sooo sit back relax and dont worry!!!
2007-03-21 23:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by zara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are reading into what she said to much.... The reason i say that is my girlfriend has done the same and had a threesome and said a similar thing but what she was saying was she loved double penetration or being spit roasted and as that involves two men and im obviously only one man than its a better turn on and not that im not giving her orgasm's etc.
So how did i overcome this... simple.... We have had a couple of threesomes (men and women) which was great as i can look back and know i was there when she had this great thrill and now i use a dildo when im having se*x with her so she has double penetration. Hope this helps.
2007-03-22 06:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by 2 good 2 miss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about it too much. What she said was probably not what she meant.
The way she was aroused during her threesome is completely different from the way she is aroused with you.
Threesomes are dirty, naughty and taboo. A different, so you can not compare it to normal loving sex.
Does that make sense? She might not understand her own sexuality yet, or when she was at university, so this could be the reason why she thought it was the most turned on she had ever been.
Maybe there is something missing in your technique, why dont you have more foreplay? Or just do something really unexpected and dirty? Tie her up? Maybe she just likes danger.
2007-03-22 06:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by natasha * 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should speak to your girlfriend about it. The fact that you discussed something as delicate as this shows that the communication in your relationship is good and if you should just tell her how that last discussion made you feel I am sure that she will clarify any confusion. She doesnt mean to make you feel this way, so dont beat yourself up about it. She could have slipped up with her wording. If she meant it then you should ask yourself if you willing to work past it. You have all the tools to the solution.
2007-03-22 06:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when people recall their sexual stories, they tend to play up the story just to make it exciting to their listener. If your girlfriend was not satisfied with you she wouldn't be with you or she would let you know. You shouldn't let this bother you. It was in her past and has nothing to do with you or how she feels about you. the two guys she was with in college didn't mean anything to her emotionally, but you do. And if it is still bothering you, just speak honestly with her about what she wants in bed, or just surprise her with a night she can really remember.
2007-03-22 06:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is obiously into experimental sex so talk to her about new things you can try and give it a go you never know u could be majorly turned on aswell different people like different things if all else fails i would sit down and discuss ur sex life properly remember sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. xx
2007-03-22 06:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by chezneywalters 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the reason why we should never ask about previous relationships, maybe what your g/f is saying is not even true she said it just to make you jealous. Just let it go I know I've been there. Some people mistake jealousy for love so maybe she said it to see your reaction.
2007-03-22 08:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by angel face 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it was a bit insensitive to say that she doesnt think she'd ever be that turned on again.. but Im sure she wasnt referring to your sexual prowness!
You cant compare yourself to two blokes and a threesome - when its just you and her - so why upset yourself thinking about it!!!
Just put it to the back of your mind!
xx
2007-03-22 06:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the answer. Arrange a threesome, of course you'd want it to be two girls, lol, see if she agrees, and if it'll turn her on.
2007-03-22 06:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about it. She shoudln't have told you that. But I can tell you one thing. That kind of casual sex can not compare to the kind of sex you have with someone you care about. So don't sweat it. It's on a completely different level. That was fantasy sex, once in a lifetime kind of thing.
2007-03-22 06:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋