Your children turn of age or get married and suddenly you can't do anything right. Of course I think it even start before that even in their teens. Not a thank you for all those night you stayed up with them. All of the vacation you never took or things you never had because of the kids. And now they resent any money you spend on yourself. I wonder if Brad and Angelina have any idea of what they are letting themselves in for. They will be resented because of all of the time that they weren't there. Of course, the children will be embarassed about their values. I guess parents just have to develop a thick skin.
2007-03-21 22:57:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You are so right. I have never seen it like that before, its actually quite funny reading it put so well. I never did say thank-you to my parents, but I did say sorry for all the things I said and did to make them worry. Maybe we all should say thank you to our parents next time we see them.
2007-03-21 23:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so sure about Angelina and Brad. I've noticed that many "absentee" parents often end up being the most respected! Why, I don't know. But you are right, often the mother in law is the enemy, you rarely hear anything negative about the father in law.
I think it is ridiculous for anyone to complain about the sacrifices they made because of the kids. Who wants to hear that all the time? I don't know, I just look at it differently, I made the choice to have children and with that choice comes responsiblity and I never looked at it like I "sacrificed" anything to be perfectly honest. My kids have never heard that from me.
They don't NEED to know about YOUR money that you spend on YOURself either. They can spend their money how they want it too.
2007-03-21 23:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
~At first I thought this was a question, but what it really is, is some rantings.
First of all, I'm a mother myself, I've sacrificed a lot for my daughter, not because I had to, but because I wanted to. I don't expect gratitude, she didn't ask to be brought into this world. She is my responsibility though.
Staying there all night because they're sick, worrying, money, no vacations, lippy teenagers, etc. Those are things you expect before you even give birth.
You should thank them for the experience of motherhood. What if you weren't able to have children? I was only able to have one and I'm thankful. I look at pictures of my baby, who is not a baby anymore, and I think to myself "that's my baby."
My mother-in-law didn't like me for no good reason, then she got to know me.
I'm sorry you feel neglected by your children, they'll come around. Young love doesn't last forever. No one loves you like your mom, and you always love mom.~
2007-03-21 23:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My Mother in Law was great, I still can go to her for advice and have a good conversation even after I separated with her daughter, the separation wasn't even amicable! And I know I couldn't have got through it without her advice (cos my father isn't really that approachable & my mother really doesn't have the experience of dealing with a bad divorce). So I don't think the Mother in Law has to be the enemy, its first how you behave towards them when you first date their daughter/ son, so that they don't feel that you are trying to take their child away from them but first be willing to integrate into their family and grow from there because you are respecting their background and upbringing, but of course all parents won't be this reasonable
2007-03-21 23:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jesk 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think mothers in law are automatically the enemy. It really depends on how the new son / daughter in law conducts themselves and how they perceive their mother in law.
Parents will be naturally guarding over their children and a spouse takes their "child" away from them somewhat, but it's all about how you deal with it.
2007-03-21 23:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mother-in-laws aren't automatically the enemy, the work themselves into being the enemy.
I hope to god when my children get married I would be smart enough not to tell my daughter-in-law how her hair should be cut. Then get pissed off because her hair isn't the style I think it should be.
At 40 I think I should decide what hair style I want. Not my mother in law or my husband should tell me how to cut my hair. After the mother-in-law ranted and raved about How I should have it, She then said or you don't want it that way because I like it that way. I ignored it because it was stupid she then hopped on my husband because my hair was not the style she wanted.
That's only one of many incidents.
I am sorry if she gave up stuff because of her kids, it doesn't give her a right to tell me what my do should be.
2007-03-21 23:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Prayer and meditation is how I learned to mange my life. I was a very angry and resentful person. Know I just let it go and focus my energy on things I can control, me.
2007-03-21 23:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mother-in-laws always intervene in the affairs of a family without giving considerations. They want that their children and in-laws follow what they want even if wrong. That is why they are automatically treated as enemies.
2007-03-21 23:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Read the bible.It is biblical why mother in laws are always enemy.
2007-03-21 23:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by honeypot 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋