what can I do if my 10 years old child needs always the mam to fall asleep?

Answer 1

Create a bedtime routine and stick to it. For example: Dinner, then bath, then half an hour of TV, then you put your child to bed, sit there for another 15 minutes and talk, say good night and leave. You can put a night-light into the room, but you must make it clear that you will not be there until your child falls asleep. Be prepared for lots of tears and guilt trips, but you have to see it through now. This child is much too old for this type of behaviour.

Answer 2

Do you have any kids of your own? I have an 8 and 10 yr old and still lay with them at night. For one it gives me some 1 on 1 time with them to talk about their day and discuss anything that may be on their minds. And two there is no greater feeling than snuggling your child even at 10 and 11. No offense but you sound like someone without kids. Because there will always be "much work to be done" regardless if you lay with your kids or not. Work should not be placed above quality time with kids and tucking them in at night is quality time. It really is none of your business if she falls asleep with her kids. Being a mother can be tiring. And I must tell you the need is mutual between my kids and I. They want tucked in and I have a need to cherish the time I have left when they still want me to lay with them.

Answer 3

There's nothing to worried about if your child wants your wife to fall asleep. Mother and a child will always have this bonding, and for your child to ask your wife to be in bed only asking for security blanket. All little children have security blanket, I'm a mother of 3 and when they're young, my bed is their security blanket, even now that they're all teenagers,they still sleep with me once in a while when they feel scared or uneasy. Your child will get over this very soon and for 10 years old,he/she is on this sensitive age that they go through...

Answer 4

take it away, plain and simple....the child will cry for it for a few days and you have to be strong and not give in, for, if you do give, it will get harder and harder to break the child of his/her pacify. I should know, I've broken three children from the pacificer, and it wasn't easy. Give the child something else to sleep with, like a favorite teddy bear, and blanket. My lil one, who is only 23 months can't sleep without her "booboo", which is her little blanket. Just got to be strong and don't give in to the child.

Answer 5

In Japan, many of the children act this way untill 14 and 15. Eventually they will growout of it, but Japanese children are often spoild, hint hint staying in the home untill marragie. 35 years old and so on.

If this is somthing that you are getting tired of, their should be some child counsler books that will tell you how to get him/her to bed.

Answer 6

let her go to sleep without it. eventually she will just fall asleep because she is tired. she should not need it anymore. it can be comforting, but so can a hug. replace it with everything you can think of. call her a baby if necessary.... not to hurt her, but to maker her want to grow up a bit...

Answer 7

in our culture children sleep with parents till they can sleep alone.we never feel anything amiss or they intruding into our privacy,mostly children fall asleep very fast.

Answer 8

You have a little fairy on your hands. I bet he's jumping rope with the girl's instead of playing football with the boy's.

Answer 9

sleep w/ him

Answer 10

Don't know.