Loner......?

Question

at school, i have no friends in any classes and it makes me upset because i feel so alone. then when it comes to be recess i go to find my frinds and they're gone. they used to wait for me but dont anymore. I want to change classes but i'm scared about being reall behind in everything. the only other solution i can think of is to change schools but i will still be behind.
I wish i could stay in my class now because i am doing well at the actual work part but i dont have any friends and its horrible.

I have no friends anymore and i get so upset. People call me a nerd and stuff like that but then expect them to help me with the work they cant do, they expect me to know everything and expects too much of me.

And i dont feel like i can trust my frends anymore either and i dont know what to do

Answer 1

Aw hun, I can understand why that would be upsetting. School can be a rough place at times, especially emotionally. Having a bunch of people together in the same place will always lead to conflict, and with everyone trying to find their place in the student hierarchy, feelings and friendships can get broken easily.

One thing is for certain though- keep being yourself, and don't compromise for anyone. If people aren't able to accept you for who you are, then that's completely their problem. It can be hard sometimes to find people who truly appreciate you for who you are, but when you do, those are the friendships that can last a lifetime.

I do admire you though for still being concerned about your work, many people would just give up and it's wonderful that you haven't. Just remember, if people are going to call you names or make fun of you for being a "nerd" in class, let them do their own work and watch them fail at it. You don't owe anything to those people, and they deserve every "F" they get.

Sometimes it can be hard to find friends, and I can speak from experience that changing schools might be a "fresh start", but sometimes it can be the same as before. Try to stay positive though, and maybe look for groups in your area that you find fun (like a hobby, team or something- if you like swimming, maybe join a swim team etc) either for during or after school. Meeting a bunch of people that have the same interests as you is a great place to start.

Remember, if you change who you are because other people want you to, they'll wind up walking all over you, and you don't deserve that no matter what anyone else thinks. Keep your chin up, don't let other people push you around (or ignore them if you can't) and think positive. Good things happen to good people. I promise.

-Kristen

Answer 2

Don't feel like a loner, people change in high school and sometimes it's better to lose friends you may have once had if they start doing things they know you would not approve of. Sometimes that is why they drift away. I used to be popular in elementary school and then in high school all of my friends kind of deserted me...it sux i know but don't let them see it get you down...that's what they wan't and if they see it then they know they have won. Just do the best you can in your school work, don't let others drag you down. Things get better usually when you start new classes, because new classes = new people. Good Luck...You're not alone in the world, sometimes sh** just happens

Answer 3

you can either find out from one of your friends why are they treating you this way, like is it because you're doing much better in your studies and they are jealous of you, or, is it that you've refused to help them at work or go out with them due to school work and change a little about yourself-like spending a bit more time but still concentrate on your studies? also, you can make friends outside school, like your neighbours or other classmates or even people with the same interests, eg. a studies club or something? (i'm not teasing you, serious advice)

good luck!

Answer 4

Ask your friends why they are ignoring you.

Also tell people that you won't do they want you to do if you can't do it and tell them to stop teasing you. Stand up for your self, girl!

Find other friends who understand you.
=) Good Luck!!!!!!!!