Hello! I'm a single mom of a 6 month old BEAUTIFUL baby girl. I've decided I want to start going out one night a week and I have a woman who I met through school who really wants to watch my daughter for me. She has 6 grown kids of her own and misses having babies in the house. I live with my parents right now, go to school 5 nights a week for 20 hours a week and my parents watch her while I'm at school. However, they are totally against me going out at night to be with my friends because we would be at a bar and refuse to watch her for me then. I am very responsible when it comes to going out to bars, I don't get drunk, just a few drinks and socializing with friends. What my parents are worried about is the "quality" of the other people at the bar. My dad is paranoid and thinks everyone is on drugs and that since I have a baby I shouldn't be around that. I believe that it's possible to go out, have fun, and be safe. What do you guys think?
2007-03-21 21:17:04 · 7 answers · asked by stephanie g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm 25, was living on my own when I got pregnant. I moved home in order to be with my daughter more and go to school for Massage Therapy. My parents don't have a problem with me going out at all, they just don't like that it is to a bar. They believe that I'm a responsible person but are worried about the other people at the bar (not my friends) and fights that could break out and me getting hurt, etc. My daughters dad can't watch her for me to go out because he works at the bar I that I would be at with my friends. That's why I have to get a sitter. He watches her twice a week, on his days off, while I'm at school.
2007-03-22 10:07:24 · update #1
i have 3 little girls of my own-although i wouldn't consider myself totally a single mom (i have a boyfriend of 2+ years). my girls go to their dad's house (we are divorced) half of the week and he has them every other weekend. on the days i don't have my girls-i'll go out w/my girlfriends to the nightclub or out with my boyfriend.
it seems to me that you are totally doing what a good mother should be-you raise your daughter and are going to school full-time-that's a great accomplishment!!
i see nothing wrong with going out every once in a while as long as you are responsible when doing so. 1-2 times a month is what i limit myself to and my girls are much older (4,5,and 7 years). babies start to have a little bit of separation anxiety at the age of 6 months so keep that in mind when choosing who watches her for you (they always like mommy best)
as long as you can fully trust the women you are placing in charge of your daughter when going out, are responsible when going out, and don't make a habit out of it-then there is absolutely no problem with you getting some "me" time!!
explain to your parents that it's important for you to have that bonding time with your friends, and that it will also give you a small break from your stressful and everday busy life!!!
you're a good mommy and doing your best to raise your princess on your own-don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. just b/c you live w/your parents means nothing. i know people who are in their 30's with NO kids still living with mom and dad!! as long as you aren't expecting them to support you and your daughter w/out you going to school or having a job-then you're doing nothing wrong.
2007-03-21 21:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by prncessang228 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a 6 month old baby girl too. I'm too scared to leave my baby with anybody. I think that I rather wait until she's much older. This is my first child and I am a young mom. If I do go out she's coming with me. If I want to have a little fun, I just stay home and watch movies with my family.
But that's just me. I never really liked to go out.
Just ask the father to watch her. Y'all can take turns. lol
2007-03-22 04:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweetnbitter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok as long as the baby is sleeping once you go out sounds like you don't get to spend much time with baby as it is.
2007-03-22 04:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by niknac 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
and how did the little come into the world?
You live at home and as long as you do---stay at home and care for you child.
You do owe your parents some leeway..you have stretched it already with one child...
where is your responsibility and when do you start growing up to become the adult..
move out and get your own place if you want independence.
2007-03-22 04:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by cork 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think its fine to go out occasionally. Every mother needs to get out occasionally and have a bit of me time.
2007-03-22 04:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by tiffany d 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you didnt say how old YOU are...i think once a week is excessive...maybe once every two months is more like it...and your parents have a point....i have to say , as a former single mom who had no parental help...you have a pretty sweet deal right now....dont blow it!
2007-03-22 13:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that is a bad idea, your parents are doing enough for you and it seems like you are taking advantage of them.
2007-03-22 04:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋