I am depressed 'coz of my husband's attitude. I've got a baby of 7 months. My husband has got a tiresome job so whatever time he gets he spends on my baby. While playing with him he doesn't even notice that i am also there. Whenever I ask him for sex he says we'll do next night. But we haven't done since my baby's birth. Before baby's we did a lot of times but not now. I just don't understand why? Whatever time he gets he give to others. Evry night I try and every night I fail. Every night i kiss him once but he doesn't respond or reply. I cry daily a lot but can not seek help from others.I don't wanna live in such a situation. Often I feel jealous of my own baby and feel like I had been just used by him . He did it just to have a baby. I don't want to marry another person 'coz I love him too much.
2007-03-21 21:03:25 · 17 answers · asked by Tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-03-21 21:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by ray_shulslur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tina,
Its difficult for you I know. You must talk to your husband did you try? There are alot of people here give idea of depression too well maybe is highly likely, So both of you must see the Doctor as the doctor needs to advice your husband too, The problem is not on you alone don't worry but you must solve before its too late. Whatever pour your everlasting love to your baby. Take my advise talk to him and both of you need to strengthen the love for the benefit each self and your baby.
2007-03-21 21:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Larisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of asking for help ask him to read your letter. maybe then he'll get the hint. the baby is the result of your love for each other. you both need to show it often. you are doing your part, he needs to do his. always keep open lines of communication, and don't take each other for granted. his job might be tiresome and long hours but he has to come home and rest to a clean home that YOU are providing for him to enjoy and relax in. never give up and tell him you won't either.
2007-03-21 21:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think being honest will be very important i your situation. Tell him what you think and really try to work things out. Having a baby should bring joy to you and your husband and shouldn't lead to frustration. Maybe you should also wait and see when is the right time! best luck!
2007-03-21 21:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves the baby so much. it doesn't mean he loves you less. having a baby for the first time is an overwhelming experience. have patience with him. and don't ever feel jealous of the baby. he is part of you both. and he will need both of you. be patient. also, try talking to your husband. tell him what you feel. maybe all you need is communication.
2007-03-21 21:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your doctor know how you are feeling. You may be suffer from a very real depression which can be treated.
It sounds to me and is my opinion only that your husband has confused his priorities. It is so important to remember that you are a couple first and parents second.
If you haven't already, ask him to go with you to your doctors appointment and or marriage counselor. He may not be aware of the seriousness his behavior is having on you.
2007-03-21 21:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Axel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your experiencing a little bit of postpartum depression
because im sure both of you are very tired
if your baby is waking up at night at least once i would assume
and hes still getting used to the little one being there
so im sure hes not trying to dissapoint you
or hurt you
maybe you should talk to your doctor about postpartum depression because you should never feel jealous of your own baby
2007-03-21 21:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, talk to him. If it's difficult for him to listen to you, it's best you write, or even send him an email to work, telling him exactly what you feel. Don't be jealous of your baby. If he can't give you the assurance, you give your attention and total love to your baby.
He's probably really tired, and it is really not your fault, and he probably doesn't mean it either.
2007-03-21 21:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Zulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you know he will have time or a day off, go take the baby to a babysitter before hand and talk to your husband alone, need to tell him how he is making you feel, and start making alone times for the both of you if thats possible.... but definitely need to talk to him and maybe get both of you into counseling....
2007-03-21 22:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he present at the birth of the child? Many guys can be freaked out by sex after witnessing a birth. I would suggest going into counciling
2007-03-21 22:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your co dependant.you dont need anyone to complete you .work on your own self esteem.what you dont like about your self...change. hes probably tired & stressed with a baby to feed. its alot of pressure for a guy..they dont feel loving when they r stressed. im sure his love for you is the same...if you like you ..it wont matter if you get his attention or not...happiness starts from within..good luck
2007-03-21 21:14:42 · answer #11 · answered by lisa t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋