So I promised myself that I wouldn't ask questions filled with teen angst and romance. What happened?

Question

Well, here's my story.

My boyfriend recently broke up with me, over the phone, using some vague reason that led me to believe he either lost interest or founf interest in another girl.

It's been two weeks and I've been sitting around and moping and crying and listening to jazz 70%-ish of the time. I'm going crazy.

Anyway. Here's my question: Do I have the right to mope if I technically haven't done anything to try and get him back? I feel cheated and lied to. But at the same time, nothing's changed -- I still love being around him and I love talking to him. I love it when he smiles and he's still the most amazing person I know.

I know this is pathetic, but if we could put that aside and you could tell me whether or not I'm justified in my moping, that'd be...dandy.

Thanks.

Answer 1

ur bf is a cop, beware! they can get u 4 cemocal test rofusal :*(

Answer 2

Aw girl trust me you have the right to mope. Everyone handles things differently you don't have to do anything in order to have the right to mope after you have been broken up with. Just don't let it define you or be all that you do and you'll be fine. Don't give up if you still want to try and work things out though, who knows maybe he thinks that you lost interest. The only way to get real closure in order to move on is to talk with him, if he is with no one else than chances are he still has feelings for you, the only real way to deal with this situation is to speak with him. Just don't make yourself seem desperate, or clingy. If he say's no than just take that as conformation that it's over, you can't change a person. All i can say is speak with him and try to find out the real reason for the break up, after that only you will know what to do.- I wish you the best of Luck though!

Answer 3

First of all, your question isn't pathetic at all. Secondly, you have every right to feel anything you do, no one has any right to make you think otherwise since he or she isn't you.

It's very normal to feel down after a break up, especially when you're the one dumped. Just remind yourself that it's a good thing you found out about his lack of interest before things got too far along (ie. marriage, children or both). Give yourself as much time as you need; there's no time limit to feeling better. And most importantly, don't forget, one day you'll find a man who will make your ex-boyfriend disappear from your mind with just one kiss. Good luck to you. :)