i'm frm a traditional christian indian family and raised in u.s. got married to a man in india after getting to know him for several months over the phone.its 1 year now i thought i knew him but i don't. i adjusted a lot in many ways to make him happy. we have a son (8 mos) now. i'm happy, i love my husband and my son is my world. i do evrything to make husband happy but he is stubborn, does what he wants without even thinking about my feelings. when i try to talk to him calmly about my feelings he says it's my fault and he stops talking and we get into an argument which lasts in silence for days. he doesnt consider my feelings or wants.
2007-03-21 20:50:03 · 6 answers · asked by so dprssd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You married him, stop whining.
2007-03-21 21:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Fab 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds A LOT like what I went through. What worked for me was I emotionally shut off, just stopped caring as much about my husband and put all my focus on my son. If hes going to be a jack a s s then let him have a pity party by himself. Also it might be because you guys are spending too much time together, take your son and go do things on your own out and about when ever you get the chance to. Maybe then he will appreciate you more. And never let your appearance go, keep yourself up any way you can, make yourself look good and walk with confidence. That is alluring to any man. I'm just telling you what worked for me, your situation might be different--but it sounds similar to mine. We have a 9 month old, and I hang out at my dads alll the time, got my figure back, went back to school, and now my stubborn-selfish husband is eating out of the palm of my hand! Good luck hun.
2007-03-21 21:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by whoswhomwho 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry that you have all these lame answers, they must hurt your feelings.
You're not alone in this struggle; everyone has a hard time getting along and everyone is also selfish and stubborn. I suspect your husband thinks your a little stubborn too. There are sources out there that teach that most people will treat their spouse in the same way they treat them. If you are kind, eventually your husband will be kind. The hard part is, how do you be kind when it's the last thing in the world you want to do?
Pray. Talk with the Lord and listen to His council.
My wife and I struggle with contention just like the next couple. Sometimes it drives me crazy. But we have a habit of reading the Book of Mormon every day. This helps us remember our love for each other and for God.
We also speak openly on Sundays, about concerns and goals. We never yell at each other and we try to not treat the other person like they are not smart.
I mentioned the Book of Mormon; I know that the teachings of the LDS church are inspired. I know they will speak peace to your heart and give you strength to endure.
I don't know you, but I'm sure your doing just fine in your endevors to get along. There is a lot of temptation, but you can do it! Take care
2007-03-23 14:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rich K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
New husband?
2007-03-21 20:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jacques 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mmm just worry about you.
2007-03-21 20:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Latina_Rica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
become a lesbian?
2007-03-21 20:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋