After 5 years, 4 babies, the good, the bad, the better and the worst, how can I help keep our marriage strong? I sometimes feel disconnected or distanced from my husband. I blame myself alot, I look up website on the internet all the time about keeping the "fire or passion", but what can I do to make sure my man still wants me????
2007-03-21 20:44:01 · 21 answers · asked by moorememories2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go out on dates. get someone to watch the kids and take yourselves out. do it!! it's like magic. go to a drive-in. picnic on the beach. take a drive along some scenic route with music you both love.
2007-03-21 20:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember what attracted u to him and he to you in the first place. Spend quality time together. Get a sitter and go out on a date. Flirt with him like u did in the beginning, fix your self up really pretty for him, keep the lines of communication open, Make him a little jealous!! Show him you aren't just a mother, that you are a woman. Surprise him with a little something different in bed. You can do something as simple as lighting some candles in the bedroom, putting on something sexy and use you imagination!! Compliment him..talk about his interest...and act interested lol!! Honestly I find talking, talking, talking really helps keep things going and then listening, listening, listening!! People change over the years so u must make sure u know who is is, what he likes and dislikes etc. Smile sometimes instead of frowning, when u wanna really chew him out..bite that tongue. You have to give a little and take alot. You go girl..start on it right now!!!
2007-03-21 21:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it. Its amazing how much a prayer can do. TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND!!! Also do something fun with him, like take the weekend off on some romantic getaway. Get a babysitter and go out on dates. Buy some stuff from victoria secret's... be creative. You can bring that fire of passion back in your lives. The question here is are you willing to work for it? Or will you give up after the first try????
2007-03-21 20:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Alie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
romance, passion and fire start long before you hit the bedroom.
be nice all day.
bake him a special treat.
run a nice hot bath for him, and when he is in the tub, throw his robe/jammers in the dryer so they are warm when he gets out of the tub. [don't laugh, i used to do this for my hubby and his mates were all jealous of the special treatment]
you have to remember he isn't just 'daddy'. he is your husband. i think sometimes we forget that, we get so used to saying 'ask your dad' or 'go see your dad' or 'wait til your father gets home', and we have to take a second look at him and remember he is your man! your lover! your friend! not just 'daddy'.
get a sitter for an hour and just the two of you go for a walk, holding hands and just talking - about anything except the kids!
i hope you get the idea, it all makes him realize how lucky he is to have you, and that brings the romance and passion back!
good luck!
oh by the way, a cute little nightie wouldn't hurt!
2007-03-21 20:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has found this remedy yet ! A few words ,marriage can never be made strong, it should be bonded to be strong.Try going out with himin the weekends , if budget or time constraints,try scooping up some favourite authentic dishes for him, the only way to a man' s heart is his hunger which i feel we woman does that the best!Best of luck!
2007-03-21 20:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this book 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands'.
You can find it at most books stores or on line at:
http://www.drlaura.com/main/
It is short and right to the point. You won't be able to put it down until you're done reading it. It will make you love and appreciate your husband even more, and in turn he will definitely take notice. My husband was a happier husband after I followed what I read.
2007-03-21 21:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you will like them, but there are two books written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. They are called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". you can check them out at http://www.amazon.com/. They are great books that talk about everything men REALLY want in marriages. They also talk about why marriages fail, from the husbands point of view. You may or may not agree with Dr. Laura. Many women hate her books because she tells women that they should keep their husbands happy. And most women think that they should do nothing for their husbands. If your man is happy, he will treat you like a queen. And isn't that what we REALLY want. At least it is for me.
2007-03-21 20:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by sexymaylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, honesty,go on dates,put the kids to bed early a few times a week so you can go to bed early too *ahem*, give eachother massages, Listen to him...don't talk...just listen, be his best friend, do little things for him that mean a lot to him, Send the kids to grandmas and buy a bottle of wine...cook his favorite meal, afterwards cuddle up and watch a movie.
2007-03-21 21:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly he's probable not likely to be taking part in you if he's over in Iraq, till he's getting real friendly with the camels.;) yet heavily, if issues have purely began to get solid, attempt to lead them to stay that way--deliver him letters, care programs, there are a million the thank you to allow him comprehend you like him from world huge. i comprehend that lack of self assurance can gnaw at you like not the rest, yet attempt to not think of roughly it, because of the fact in case you do, that is going to be a self-gratifying prophecy. i comprehend all approximately it. and that i'm helpful that is fairly annoying having him so some distance away while issues purely started getting solid. purely attempt to maintain faith in him, ok? solid luck sweetie, and that i wish you and your husband have a protracted and happy marriage.
2016-10-19 08:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married, but from what i've read on craigslist...don't "let yourself go", and request sex frequently. so I know it must be hard to do that with 4 babies, but make it happen. also, build up his ego. when he does something around the house, just be in awe of him and let him know how lucky you are to have such a talented husband. men love that crap! lol
2007-03-21 21:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by MardyMar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when women pull this stuff. Just talk to him. Tell him what you want, what you need, and how you feel. Let him know that you need him to be reassuring, that you want attention, and you feel insecure. If you don't spell it out for him then he can't help you, and believe me, he wants to help you. He does not want you going around feeling the way you do now because you will just make him miserable. :-)
2007-03-21 20:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋