bullies something has to be done?

Question

i hate bullies why is it nothing gets done when it comes to bullies im so sick and tired of it especially the way teachers handle it my son is a victim of constant bullying from certain students. After being sick of nothing being done to my satisfaction (within reason of course) by the school i attempted to have words with the child but he ran off the next day at school it was my son in trouble for what i hadnt even gotten the chance to do, anyway he was made out the bad one and i was also told she found it hard to beleive it was that certain child bullying my son because SHE had never had a problem with him so my son was made out the lyer the exagerator bla bla bla and this boy gets off scott free. i make no apologies for any times that i will in the future confront these children ill do it again and again and again until we are heard is any one else going thru this sort of situation? does any one else feel my frustration with these schools can you please share your experiences

a big thankyou to every one of you that has answerd this it is most appreciated you have no idea how greatfull i am for your advice

Answer 1

i was bullied when i was in elementary school also... it was mainly after school... my principal saw them kicking me and everything after school in the playground one day and did nothing... she offered to drive me home.. but said nothing to the girls who were hitting me. everyday after that i got picked on even more because i ran to the teacher for protection.!!! i Had told many parents and teachers... and they did nothing.. my parents tried to talk to the other girls parents.. and all they could say was " well my daughter is more popular then your daughter.. and there just kids... don't worry about it they'll get over it!"{and they wonder where kids get it from} but although we were just kids.. it really did hurt.. in many ways. so eventually we told the police, i know it seems drastic.. but they came to our school and did a program about bullying... again it didn't work...there was nothing much else they could really do!! i know its hard to do n e thing... and its even harder for the child... but honestly.. if you have to ... talk to the police and let them no your tired of no one stepping in... you can even go to the school board.... the head honcho haha.. and tell them how much trouble you have been having... just don't give up... cuz its mothers like you who will change lives for many kids out there.

Answer 2

It can be soo frustrating because alot of the times schools wont do anything about bullying, And this is when they need a change of staff. Under the "Code of Student Conduct"
Harassment= students are not to make derogatory statements (racial slurs, name calling), gesture, bully push hit, kick , touch , throw anything at anyone, or encourage fighting,
Let them know that your child has a right to be safe and secure at school and pursue your education in a disciplined environment. Tell them that if they do not punish this boy for his behavior that you are gong to have to take to school district to court for negligence on keeping students safe from bullys. A parents worries should never go unanswered, YOu can also request a meeting with the principal, the boys and the boys parents, maybe your conversation will let them see that his behavior is hindering your child's education.

Answer 3

I applaude you for wanting to do something about this. Too many parents and teachers and classmates sit back and say it is a part of growing up but it is a part of growing up that the victim gets sick of it and walks into his school with a gun and mows down half the campus (Columbine)? Then teachers, parents etc want to cry and say they should have done something! Carry on with what you are doing - confront the child and even his parents. Tell them that if it carries on you will seek legal advice. My daughter was being emotionally bullied by a little girl in her class. The child kept telling her she is fat (which she isn't, she is 7yrs old and weighs less than 20kg). It got to the point where my daughter stopped eating, started making herself vomit. I went to the school and when they hadn't done enough I confronted the mother. I told her she either takes her child to task or I will. Luckily the mother was understanding and things have since improved. Try this - it might help but I wish you luck and strength because it isn't an easy situation to deal with. And if all fails, place your child in another school

Answer 4

We did have a problem like this, but ours was two-fold; the bully was black and my son is white. Naturally, we were accused of racism, etc. We contacted a lawyer regarding harassment and such, and that seemed to put the fear of God into them, and we haven't had any problems since. The school did nothing, the parent/s were even more stubborn and we were about at wits end.

Answer 5

I would try and talk to the bullies parents. That may help. This is such a common problem in schools something should definitely be done to protect children from being victimised in schools

Answer 6

Get your son into Martial Arts so he can defend himself.

Bullies are no different from random people on the street attacking you. You have to know how to protect yourself in life.

Don't depend on the school system to protect him from bullies.

Answer 7

you are like me i will not let it happen to my children i will try in the way they ask go to the teacher go to the Principal then take matters in to my own hands i once had an older kid kick the **** out of a bully for hurting lil kids we do what we have to to protect our children

Answer 8

When you make it a police matter the school will pay attention. If someone assaults your child in school or out the same laws apply. Good luck

Answer 9

For all the so called "zero tolerance" in public schools - it seems the only thing they do tolerate is bullies ..
Apparently , that is a necessary trait in order to be a liberal .

Answer 10

Stop whining, all kids go through it especially boys. It's part of life. If your kid stands up to them it will stop, but not if you go chasing the bullies down yourself. If you don't butt out I can almost guarantee the bullying will continue or get worse.