What can we do?

Question

i'm 16 years old and my brother is 14 i couldnt sleep becuz i have this question thats bothering me - my biological dad's girlfriend (i call him that becuz i havent seen him in over a year) always writes his emails for him. He never contacts us. then yesterday becuz she has been bothering my mom, my mom told her not to contact her anymore and my bio dad's girlfriend responded with a really nasty email that she sent to me and my brother too. in it she called my mom a liar, a cheater, selfish, coldhearted (you get the drift), and then she called her a "b" word (dont want to cuss). Can I do anything as a kid since she sent this to me and my brother? She told me i was like mom and would lead a miserable life like mom does but my mom smiles more now than i have ever seen her. can someone help me and my brother and tell us what we need to do? thank you for reading this and stuff maybe i can go to sleep now!

oh and she said if i were her kid she would whip me.

Answer 1

I'm sorry this happened to you. The first thing you should do is print out the email she sent you and keep it in a safe place, then (as long as your mom says it's okay) tell that woman to leave you alone and not to contact you anymore. If she writes or contacts you again, keep a copy of that also and along with the first nasty email, your mom can get a court to order her to leave you alone. If that's what you want. Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, be glad that you don't have to deal with this crazy woman any more than you already do! I'm glad that your mom's smiling more.

Secondly, ask a counselor at your school if s/he can recommend someone with whom you can talk about this situation--there may be a peer counseling or support group that would help you get some of it off your chest. That's what the counselors get paid for!

As for what else to do? As much as you can, try to take the high road. E-mail the girlfriend and POLITELY inform her (not ask, but inform) that you will delete any messages that attack you or your family. Also? Keep a copy of all the e-mails in a separate folder, just in case she gets worse and you need proof of when it started.

Good luck!

Answer 3

im sorry you have to go through this, but im only 19, and i can relate to this somehow. dont worry about what your bio dad's g/f is saying. she's trying to upset you. she's talking crap about you and your mom, but in all reality, your dad hasnt seen you for that long or whatever, so it's his/her irresponsibility. my parents got divorced when i was in 6th grade, and my dad was happy, and my mom was happy. which made me happy. it sucked that it happened, but as long as your mom is happier now, then that's all that matters. dont let his g/f get to you. that's what she's trying to do, and you can show her that even a 16 year old can be more mature than she can for ignoring the situation. i hope i helped

Answer 4

Block her emails. If she continues to find a way to bother you, file a complaint with the cops. You are a kid. You kids know more about the internet than anyone. You know how to do this. So do it. And go to sleep now.

Answer 5

You really need to tell you mom. There should, also be a way to block her emails from your account.

I think it sucks that grown up people act like that around you guys.

Answer 6

..."lad" you need to talk with your father alone... get a message to him with out the "wench" knowing... I'm not sure how you're going to do that...maybe at his work, something... Le him know what the "wench" is saying... tell him streight up and down... don't exagerate...just streight fact...period)... Tell your dad you miss him and want some time "with him"...he can leave madaim wench at home sometime and make some quality time for his son's....10-4...?