What rules/curfews are acceptable when she is 18 but still in high school and about to graduate? How do I handle the disrespect? Legally she is an adult but still is at home and in school.
2007-03-21 19:59:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Whats that old saying " as long as you live under my
roof...you'll obey my rules". If she can't follow your
rules with respect for you and the rest of the household
maybe its time she think about moving out...I know it
sounds harsh BUT when and if she realizes you won't be around to cook and clean, do laundry, make her lunches,
make sure she gets places, give her money etc. She
just might smarten up and want to stay home and respect you.
When I was faced with this 1) it worked like a charm but 2) I wrote out a letter stating in paragraph form what I expected
desired, and needed/required them to do AND (important I think) gave them the choice or choices ie: you can stay at home and graduate/but you must study and be in by midnight on weekends 10pm weekdays. Or, I will continue doing your laundry BUT you can either do the shopping or wash dishes.Or they can leave!! Something like that. They seem to quickly come to understand that life just ain't gonna work for them if they don't graduate and they party or lay around all day dis'ing mom.
Hope this helps a little.
2007-03-21 22:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is not an adult yet
she will be one when she leave your home and she is paying for her needs also I think it is 21
but nebertheless she does need to respect you no matter where she is or how old she is
at the moment she is checking her boundries so treat her like you will treat your pet/dog put a boundry and don't let her cross it
OK fine you are 18 you will still have a curfew, you will still treat me with respect
My son turn 18 last month deal is age don't make you a man / adult but your action does
you need to tell her the same
Goodluck & Take care
2007-03-21 21:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While still living with parents, the 18 year old should show enough maturity to follow her parents wishes.
Doesn't matter if she is 18; it's your home and you have the right to set limits for the daughter.
You could set the limit that should she not accept your wishes, then upon graduation, she would be moving out.
2007-03-21 20:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to let him understand your rules or else he will never graduate highschool.
1. No GF/BF
2. No parties
3. 8:00PM curfew
4. 8:00PM to 12:00M study time
2007-03-21 21:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by SELaplana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmm. people usually more willing to follow by our life example. cheers.
2007-03-21 20:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋