keeps emailing to me after I left a job like he wants to be my friend. He would say things like he's thinking of me, want to see me, go out with me, and said 1X he would name his child after my name. It seems like he's flirting with me and I told him we should stop emailing to each other, but he said he really would like to keep in touch with me still and be my friend. Should I hurt him and stop emailing to him or continue be his friend?
2007-03-21 19:56:37 · 40 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
END IT! You're becoming the other woman! If you were his wife, would you want your husband starting this "friendship" with a new girl??? It's NOT OKAY.
2007-03-21 19:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by A W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider being friends with this guy, he's MARRIED.What would you think if you were his wife and you knew what he doing??? And how did he get you e-mail address. i would put a stop to it now. It sounds like you like this man,but remember he is married. If you keep on having communication with this guy you'll probably become the other woman. Do your self a favor, stop it now. Or you will just be the other woman. Which is just unnecessary, and degrading for a women.And besides you don't need all that drama in you life find a good single man
2007-03-29 09:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he is married, he probably shouldnt be e-mailing you and telling you he wants to see you and wants to go out with you. Also naming his child after you thats really weird, I mean how long did you even know this guy for? You could stop e-mailing him altogether if you feel uncomfortable with the situation. I know i would be uncomfortable. Another idea is you could keep e-mailing him but if he ever tries to go out with you or anything tell him his wife has to come with him. You could become the wifes friend and then see how he reacts to that. If he was sexually drawn to you, he will be uncomfortable with the idea of you being his wifes friend. Another thing is if he is willing to cheat on his wife with you, he would be willing to cheat on any woman he got into a relationship with. He doesnt sound like a very good guy. What do you guys have in common? What is the friendship built on? You should also see if he is trying this same kind of thing with other girls. Maybe he is a married guy who wants to be a player. Good luck with the situation i hope I was helpful.
2007-03-21 20:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by r_u_m_b2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure,he's after more than just friendship.If you think you can handle his behaviour and stick to being just friends then you can stay that way.
However he seems to be very eager to get close to you.He might have developed some kind of a connection or feelings for you.He is a married man and so whilst his still is, it would not be wise to get involved with him in any other way.
If he insists on being just friends and you like his company,its ok. Just as long as things don't go any further.
On the other hand if you really dont want anything to do with him at all,make it clear that your not interested.Best way to do that would be to simply not respond when he emails you or tries to get in touch with you.
2007-03-21 21:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it like this, how would you feel if you were married and your husband was doing what this married guy is doing with another woman? There is nothing wrong with being friends but he is a married man who obviously doesn't mind hurting his wife by his actions, so why would you want to have a friend like that? Yes it's flattering to have the attention of a man but he should be off limits for you if you have any respect for yourself, friendly chatting is one thing but to take it beyond that is just wrong.
2007-03-21 20:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't hurt the guy if you tell him to stop. He's asking for you to define your boundaries. If you don't it will turn into an affair, and then you'll really feel some misery. Affairs usually cause lots of misery regardless of whether or not he leaves his wife for you. And since he has kids, it will become even messier. Define to yourself your boundaries and then don't let him cross them. Married men know what they should and shouldn't be doing, it isn't your responsibility to teach that to him. If he is attracted to you, then others are as well, and your being with him will take away your opportunities for healthy relationships sans the baggage and taboo. Good luck!!!
2007-03-27 12:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by stormc2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing all this and you still don't know if he's flirting?
Maybe, it's you instead for allowing this to go on, a home breaker is in bad taste and this is a married guy you're
talking about....be even worse if he has children to be involved.
2007-03-29 02:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally flirting with you. I would block the emails. One of the guys I worked with gave me the line, "we can't really talk at work; want to go out for coffee?" Both of us being married to other people, I say sure only to have him try to kiss me. That stopped there. Some married men are pigs.
2007-03-29 01:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by love_and_liberty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is beyond flirting with you - he's practically stalking you. When you said you should stop e-mailing each other (how did you ever let it get that far?) he persists. Hurt him by stopping e-mailing him? Are you kidding me - this guys is effing cheating on his wife, unfaithful in his marriage, lying and beyond being hurt. He doesn't want to be your 'friend' - he wants to get down and dirty with you! You'd be a fool to ever let that happen.
2007-03-29 18:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about it...Stop....have you stopped yet?...yes stop...Look, if the guy is married and his wife finds out ...I mean why would you want all the drama that will come of that. He needs to respect his marriage vows. Don't worry about hurting his feelings because you are just telling him you don't want to be party to any misunderstanding that could result from this so called friendship...its that simple...its not about whether you hurt him its about protecting you....Good Luck!
2007-03-21 20:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by chcman74 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men and women understand the word "friendship" differently.
If you already know he's married, BACK OFF NOW and do it in a clear, no-nonsense way.
It is clear he is looking for an affair and if you let him convince you he only wants to "be friends", the next step is for him to tell you he is "in a bad, unhappy marriage".
So....You will decide if you want to complicate your life - as well as his wife's and children's- or not.
Be smart ....Stop contact.
2007-03-26 10:47:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋