My friend met this man in Vegas when she traveled there for a wedding. She lives in the Northeast, yet they hit it off, and talked everyday and night for months. She made an effort to go see him and they eloped. The thing is he has a son from a previous marriage and has been married twice. He was engaged to someone else before her. Well, the thing is, she found out he had been sleeping with some other girl the whole time. It wasn't just one affair with her. My friend has made an effort to fly down there and see him and he only visited once to meet her family. They still live in apart because of work for the time being. Now, he was sorry and she forgave him, but then after, they argued and said he wanted to give up on the relationship. She went down to get some things, and he was sorry all over again. And now, she is forgave him again and is continuing to leave her life here to be with him. He has a good job, but I feel he is not the man she thinks he is. He lied to her about his 2nd
2007-03-21 19:32:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wife and said he got divorced b/c she was sick with cancer and didn't want to be with him anymore. When she found out he was cheating with this other girl, the girl called my friend and told her he said my friend was also an ex wife dieing of cancer!! He didnt know what to see, but that he was really sorry and he balmes his childhood and parents for a bad upbringing. I dont know what to say to her...what can I do??
2007-03-21 19:35:04 · update #1
If you have already given her your opinion and she rejected it, I would drop it. I know you want to protect her and try and talk sense into her, but the thing is, if you keep pushing the issue it will ultimately destroy your friendship. If this guy is as bad as you say he is, she is going to need you after the sh** hits the fan. You are her support system, don't let the situation take that away from her. Clearly she knows the score and is choosing to forgive him because she has feelings for him. Telling her what she already knows will only make her feel stupid and give him ammunition to alienate her from you. "they all just hate me" "you know she was always trying to turn you against me" "they don't want us to be happy" etc etc. The best thing you can do until she sees the light on her own is to be there for her.
2007-03-21 20:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by DazeyChain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one thing women truely hate is to hear anything negative(even if it is true) about "her man" from another woman. I think you should probably just sit back and keep your thoughts to yourself and let her figur out what it is that she needs to do with her relationship.
But now if you begin to see that your friend is always engaging you in some conversation about her husband in which she is always feeling down, or if she asks you your opinion about her relationship then by all means you should just tell her the truth. But make sure you say it and say it only once and be done with it. At the end of the day there is nothing that you can do about it...its all up to her.
2007-03-22 02:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well first off your friend is her own person and it seems like she is really gullible if she has to fly down to see him and he has a record of cheating and ex wives and cheated on her what makes her think as soon as she hop on the plan back home he not hopping in the sheets with another women most likely your friend is in it cause she feels like she can't do any better take her on a girls night at every chance you get try introducing her to other gals let her know that she is a very attractive person and that she can find a good trustworthy man cause the one she has now should only be her friend since they hit it off so well cause its obvious he is not ready for a real relationship
2007-03-22 02:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by the man the myth the answerer 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
thats a very rocky relationship. hes sorry, then hes not, then he is, its a way to control her. he has lied, lied and lied some more. not the type of person i would want to have in my life as a friend or otherwise. blaming his bad childhood and parents... all of our parents messed us up some how, but again, he has lied and lied and lied even more with the whole thing about dying from cancer. its a way to get women to feel sorry for him. "oh you poor thing, your wife has cancer and divorced you" what a load of crap. tell your friend that this guy is a lyer, a user, a manipulator and not stable and will NOT provide a good relationship for her.
2007-03-22 02:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For one, you're getting involved in someone else's business that has nothing to do with you. Is she asking for your help?
Do you actually know how she feels for this guy. Have you been with her each and every moment she's been with him?
Leave well enough alone, she's an adult and responsible for her own actions. If you intervene and she gets hurt in the process you may lose a friend. Be a friend and her deal with her own affairs.
THE BEST ADVICE IS FOR YOU TO STAY OUT OF IT. BUT NO, YOU DON'T WANT THAT...YOU WANT A PLAN FROM US...THIS STORY IS TOO JUICY FOR YOU TO LET IT GO NOW...YOU'RE WHAT WE CALL A "CHISMOSA"
2007-03-22 02:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Advice her to stop meeting with that guy because the guy is not serious to her... And if he does then why he still meeting with another woman and sleeping with them too.. That's unfair to her... And advice your friend that there are so many guy out there not that guy because he only making her stupid... Good luck
2007-03-22 02:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by rhean s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
D I V O R C E L A W Y E R-----THE BEST MONEY CAN BUY AND TAKE HIM TO THE CLEANERS, THAT IS, IF ANYTHING IS LEFT SINCE HE HAS HAD SO MANY WIVES..........GET SOMEONE FROM VEGAS........THEY ARE USED TO PEOPLE HIDING ASSETS...........GOOD LUCK AND YOUR FRIEND IS LUCKY TO HAVE YOU.
2007-03-22 02:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe u can talk about that and fix it!and maybe u can give her advices so she/he can do the right thing
2007-03-22 02:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by Trish 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋