My husband and I used to be sweet and loving as if i'm his princess, we had lots of enjoyable time together be it cooking or fishing, watching DVDs etc. Recently our sex life decreased tremendously from 2-3 times a week to once every fortnight.
My question is: Will stress and pressure from work, settling of previous divorce case, financial matters, lost in shares etc. Will all these affect the willingness to get stimulated?
He have been wanting to change his job as he have been holding on to the same job for 10years. His divorce case is in the ending stage where house will soon be sold. He have got car loan, hse loan, renovation loans from his previous hse. He suffered a huge lost in shares for the past few months. His bank account is empty now.
I dont need the best and i dont need him to be rich. I only want him to be himself. I've given him all my savings to cover. I also realised he have been talking to girls from call-in chatlines, is he trying to vent his stress to them?
2007-03-21 19:26:18 · 17 answers · asked by Vally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, stress can significantly lower a man's sex drive. It does for women too. I used to have a really stressful job with long hours and I'm sure my girlfriend wasn't happy at the time. Now about the call-in chatlines....I'm not sure what's going on with that. Maybe it's to vent...it could be a lot of things.
2007-03-21 19:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Skytide 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAID : "Will stress and pressure from work, settling of previous divorce case, financial matters, lost in shares etc. Will all these affect the willingness to get stimulated?"
I SAY: Uhhh... YEAH!!!
2007-03-21 19:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAID : "Will stress and pressure from work, settling of previous divorce case, financial matters, lost in shares etc. Will all these affect the willingness to get stimulated?"
I SAY: Uhhh... YEAH!!! Duh!
I still dont get how he is your husband but is going through a dicorce at the same time. Hmm (?)
2007-03-21 19:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stress is one of the reason for lower sex drive. But it's not an excuse to neglect your feeling by talking to girls from call-in chatlines.
2007-03-21 19:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience that depression can put the stops on sex drive. I'm not talking about a little stress, but someone who is clinically depressed. When I was suffering, I had no interest in ANYTHING. All I wanted to do was to lie in bed and curl up in a ball. I don't like the part about the chat line, but depression can do all kinds of things. My suggestion is that you try to be as loving as you can and to let him know that you will listen to him anytime he wants to talk about anything and I mean anything. Try to get him to see a doctor. One thing not to do is to try to smother him.
2007-03-23 12:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♂ ♫ Timberwolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I wouldn't worry about your sex lives together. Your man needs a pressure relief valve. Sex is just a temporary fix. Both of you need to sit down and discuss how the both of you can make your marriage happier and rid of those outside distractions. Sex is 99% mental and his head just isn't there and will never be until he eliminates those other distraction. Tell him your feelings about his chatting with other females. Tell him it bothers you and for him to stop. Suggest he can have all the sex he wants with you. This will lessen his wanting to look for greener grass on the other side of town.
2007-03-21 20:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If under stress, loss of sex drive can be understandable. But call-in chatlines might be a red light for both of you.
2007-03-21 21:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by guyguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most bothersome part of your question is about talking to girls on chat line. He should be discussing all this with you not some stranger on a chat line. He is under a lot of stress; that could be the reason for his lowered libido. You need to discuss these things with him as gently as you can.
2007-03-21 20:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by starflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression and or stress can make it very difficult to become stimulated and sexual aroused. Believe it or not a lot of it is all in our head. Everything will work out. Just take everything one step at a time. You two will be just fine. Breathe....
2007-03-21 19:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by Forbidden1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have given him everything and he has given you excuses.
Stress is not a reason for neglecting you.
He seems to be trying to make new beginnings with new people.
I would seek ways to limit your losses to what you have given him already.
I would be holding on to the one that matters most, if problems become too much.
2007-03-21 20:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋