Please help he was sweet he even knew his name !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 19:24:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Fish
sorry, but there is never a quick way to get over anything. it's okay to miss him though. try to do other things to get your mind off of him for a while.
if you want a new fish and you didn't dispose of him yet (don't know how you do it, most people flush, I bury) you can save a fish from certain doom in his honor. take him in a plastic bag (or the cup he came in is better if you still have it) and take him to walmart. say he died right when you got him home and you want a replacement. this way you are supporting walmart's poor fish care, but you're still helping a betta. just be sure if you buy a sick one you are capable of helping it, don't take on severe fin/body rot if you don't know much about caring for them. if you're knew at it instead pick one with just dirty or little water.
however, if your fish died after 4 months I feel you may be pretty new to caring for bettas. I've had many my oldest living was 5 or 7yrs old... something like that. and I currently have 14 bettas. I'd be glad to answer any questions you have, because despite what the common belief is, bowls and vases do not make good homes for bettas.
sorry about your loss.
2007-03-21 21:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really amazing to me how much personality a betta has. I never knew any fish were capable of knowing so much, and displaying as much personality as our betta does! He is very quirky too. He will puff up at my hubby when he looks at him close enough, but not me! (Maybe cuz there's another "male" in his territory?! lol) He watches from his tank, and watches you cross the room, and follow you and you could be 6 foot away from the tank!
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I know in your heart you may never be able replace him. Sometimes the best way to get over a loss, is to get another. Maybe a female this time so it's not like you're replacing him with the same fish? Or, go to the pet store and just stand there and watch the bettas. Watch how they react to you. Look at their colors. Take your time, and explore the different kinds of bettas. If after all this you still feel this won't help you get over him, walk away. If one strikes your fancy, get him or her. It will be cool to realize the next one has just as much personality as the one you lost.
Four months seems a bit quck to lose one though. Make sure you change your tank at least weekly if you get another one. That's why my parents could never keep a betta alive, because they treated it like it was a big tank, and "changed it when the water got yucky".
Plus, if you don't get another one, who's going to eat all that left over food you bought him??? lol
*Hugs* Don't fret your loss. Things will start looking up soon. I promise.
;o)
2007-03-22 05:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I expected, many answerers will tell you to get a new fish. But trust me, I had a betta for 8months (my first betta). His name was Bet. Although I have a new betta now, named Bet Junior, I still think about Bet. You cannot stop thinking about him, atleast not so fast, cos he was a living being and not a toy.
So if you're thinking about him, go ahead, don't control your emotions, you will just be bottling them up and running away from them. It is normal to feel bad over the loss of a creature as tiny as a fish. They are living beings, they have feeings, they understand, love, get angry just like any other pet which most of the times are bigger in size and are more expressive. You have lost a friend, a room mate who had his own personality. He was not a toy that can be replaced so easily ... he was a living being. Feeling bad is fine and not stupid.
2007-03-21 21:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of pets don't have very long life-spans. That's a part of life for a pet owner.
It's not a bad thing that you keep thinking about your pet. It's actually a good thing and shows your sensitivity. I don't mean to sound rash, but I would suggest getting another pet [fish, if you so choose].
I know what losing a pet is like. My cat, whom I had for 9 1/2 years, developed a tumor and I wasn't able to take care of it. I did everything I could for her while avoiding putting her through surgery. She still curled up with me at night, and I couldn't stand to hear her crying - she was in so much pain, she cried all night, and I couldn't do anything for her but pet her. Eventually she was way too sick, and lost too much weight. She was about 11 lbs when she was "healthy." When I had her put down, against my liking but to my knowledge for her sake, she didn't even weigh 2 lbs. I had other friends. But pets understand their owners very well, sometimes even more so than the owner's close friends. Abbey was my best friend. She knew when I was angry, happy or sad. When I was sad she would jump up on my bed with me and give me attention - crawl in my lap and start purring. It was the sweetest thing!
I got another cat to "replace" her [I don't like saying it like that...], but gave that kitten to my mom when I moved out last year. My bf and I have another kitten now, and she reminds me of Abbey. It's hard, because sometimes I can't help but remembering my best friend, the times I was somewhat mean to her but she stood by me anyway, and the times she made me smile. But I get over it, because I know she's better off and her time was almost up anyway. Besides, I'm just glad we had some good times together, even if she was just a cat. =)
2007-03-21 19:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by ~SouthernBelle~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might sound cruel,but get over it! that's life! death is part of life. Yes,you loved that fish,but the fish never loved you. I went through terrible despair ,sadness,and depression when I was a teenager and one of my guppies died. Treat yourself to a new fish,and learn more about its up keep. You learn from life's experiences. There are lots of real evil things going on today that could make you cry. You feel bad when you have no control over events in your life. Move forward,and learn from this glitch in your life. In 20 years from now,you'll be giving another young friend similar advice band compassion. Good luck!
2007-03-21 20:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by DAGIM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he meant that much to you, you're not going to forget him in a hurry. There's nothing wrong with grieving for a fish. He was your pet, he meant a lot to you, you were close, you're allowed to be sad. Just work through whatever you feel. There's no wrong way to react.
It might help you too to get another fish. Don't look at it as replacing him, rather as trying to fill the gap he's left in your heart and life.
2007-03-21 19:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by RIffRaffMama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had a pet goldfish at work named "Fleshy" for THREE YEARS, and he died over new year's weekend. i still think about him. he knew when i got there in the morning and got all excited when i got there because he knew he was about to be fed. i miss that little guy.
how do you get over it? i guess the way i dealt with it was remembering the good times. all of my co-workers liked him, too. he was like the department mascot. it may hurt for a little while, but soon you'll accept it. you'll remember your fish and be thankful for the time you had with it. good luck.
2007-03-21 19:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by drunkinpoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is get a new one i know that i went threw the same thig my bettafish was sick and i was worried about himhe knew his name and everey thing but he lived sorry about yours
2007-03-23 05:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by sabriana r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new one
2007-03-21 20:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
replace him and you will soon love the new one as much as the old one
2007-03-21 19:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋