My boss ended our 5 month affair 3 weeks ago. He says he is still in love with me , but needs to make sure his marriage is really over before he can leave. He says he is in love with me and he loves her as a sister, he wants to make sure he wont fall back in love if he bails. I love him very much....no children involved need advice. He says we cant have sex now but after this is all over. My heart is broken, she knows about me & still wants to fix it.
2007-03-21 19:22:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, you need to stay away from married men! He is a player and is playing you and his wife! If you do not want another woman coming between you and your future husband, stay away from other people's marriages! Marriage is sacred and to be honored by all! Have you ever heard of do unto others as you would have them do unto you? This is very good advice! I am sorry you are in pain, but you will continue to be in pain until you find a single man who will be available to no one but you! This man needs to honor the vows he made to his wife and God! You do not need to be the cause of a break up! If a man cheats on his wife, what makes you think he will be faithful to you? You know, what comes around......goes around! The guy is not a prize package or he would be faithful to his wife and would be putting all his efforts into romancing his wife instead of messing with you!
Ladies, what ever happened to morals?
2007-03-21 19:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for all of you....good for him for breaking it off with you so the cheating stops. Good for you, because I am sure you have thought about this and although I am sure you love him I am sure in your thinking you have realized that you certainly don't want to marry a man that cheats. So you should be glad that he is now trying to correct the situation so that he is truly and upstanding guy.... right? And good for the wife, since she wants to try and figure out with her husband what went wrong in their marriage, that he would think of her as a sister. So now that things are operating as they should, you only need time to discover whether he will in fact divorce and come to you or stay and make another go of his marriage. If the former happens then I wish you well, but keep and eye on your marriage with this guy, and at the first hint of any problems don't wait to discuss them or you may find yourself in the same boat as his wife is now. If the latter happens, then I know you will be hurt but take heart that you probably helped fix a marriage. And take away from this, that maybe you should find your soul mate with the same traits as this guy but hey......this time go for an unmarried guy ...,,,Good Luck!
2007-03-21 19:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by chcman74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should be fired first off I had a co-worker of my husbands start an affair with him knowing dam right well he was married.She was even invited to our Christmas party we gave at our house.You really should be ashamed of yourself for letting yourself fall in love with someone who you know belong to another woman.He loves his wife how can you believe other wise.All the single men out here why do you women go after married men is it you want what he has given the wife.When a knowingly married man comes after you it is up to you to do the right thing .All it takes is for a married man to tell you he doesn't
love his wife and wants to leave her but he can't right now because of what ever reason he gives you is good enough for you to stick around .
2007-03-21 20:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I look at anyone currently in a relationship claiming to have fallen out of love or are in the process of a divorce: our relationship is non-existant until I see a divorce decree.
There are several ways of looking at this:
1. He leaves his significant other for you - What does this say about him? He cheats on women, meaning he'll do it to you too.
2. He stays with her but continues a fling with you - Once again, it says he cheats on women and you are there for sex. He'll keep claiming he loves you so you'll stick around.
3. He ends the relationship with you other than professional - You now have to work with him and see him everyday making it nearly impossible to move on.
It's obvious this man doesn't have a great resume. Why are you connecting yourself to someone like this? In other words, assume your best friend told you this was her story, what would you advise her? I bet you would NOT tell her to stick around and wait for him. :)
2007-03-21 19:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me that sounds worthless. I dont think you should be sticking around waiting for another person to be with you. Theres plenty of men that know where they stand and are available. Why in the hell would you want a guy that has a wife. That doesnt sound too good for yourself. Dont you want that yourself. To me it sounds like he is using you for a back burner. I would not in now way wait for a person like him. Its worthless and you are going to be more heartbroken wasting your time on someone that is already tied up in a serious affair. Make the right decision for yourself and get out of that mess.
2007-03-21 19:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY NOW!!!!!
you know you did wrong, and he does too.
you need to find your own husband .
what if you had a husband and he started to CHEAT on you?
Well that WILL happen,to you because he did it to his wife!
Only 1 out of a hundred marriages make it through the first decade that was born in cheating and those that do almost all of them say cheating has been a PROBLEM in marriage!
You need to find someone else and stay the hell away from this guy!
Quit y7our job move away, change your number!
2007-03-21 20:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're itching to tell your mum yet you want the money out of your dad. Will he decrease off the availability in case you rat on him? not a outstanding situation to be blackmailed circuitously by using your guy or woman dad. Does he understand which you recognize? this is his inner maximum existence and likewise your mum's. you mustn't get entangled. even although, i think of you ought to talk on your 'ideal pal' dad and tell him your suspicions and your perspectives on the problem. He has to stand up to this occasion and not be a wimp and cheat on his cherished?? spouse. For all you recognize, she already is conscious approximately it and is merely keeping quiet. i think of you may desire to talk it which includes your dad. in the journey that your mothers and fathers divorce this is as much as them. this is not your fault and you will not lose the two of them because of fact they're nonetheless your mothers and fathers - yet they are able to start their very own lives afresh with out want of secrets and strategies. you're actually not an avenging angel to precise the wrongs in somebody else's marriage - yet you ought to tell your dad off for being a cheat. it might deliver him to his senses and make him comprehend what he will lose by using wearing on an affair at the back of his spouse's back. don't be the only to tell your mom. Your dad has to try this if he desires to proceed his affair and initiate a sparkling existence. stay out of the argument thoroughly.
2016-11-27 21:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. it's too late to say hey you should avoid married men because they obviously bring the baggage of an impending divorce with them.
I know it's not somethin you want to hear, but you don't deserve to be anyone's second choice. either he gives you all of himself or none. life is too short to sit around and wait for happiness, go out and grab it yourself, and you aren't going to get that by sitting home waiting for someone else to 'choose' you over their wife.
2007-03-21 19:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just getting out from under you. He may go back to his wife, but chances are he got bored with you and is looking for some one else.
2007-03-21 19:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he used you as a booty call and he lied to you wake up
2007-03-21 19:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋