I ended the friendship with a friend due to the fact that 1) she said something she never apologized for
2) I felt like I was doing all the work
* I gave her hints I was pissed-by not chatting with her on aim. But I'm sure she never got the hint.We stayed in contact via email; aim or snail mail (which meant a lot, because she is very busy with school and she took time out to write to me, and she didn't have to)-(we live in different states). I gave her another chance and I felt she wasn't trying, so I ended the friendship-I never exactly told her it was over. I felt I shouldn't, because I feel as though she wouldn't care. I don't know that for sure, it is just my guess, and I could be wrong, and that is why I am asking if I should chat with her again and tell her how I feel and from there make my mind up?..I could be wrong and I wouldn't want to regret it.
2007-03-21 19:17:38 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
~I'm sorry, but this sounds very trivial. If she is truly your friend, you should be able to tell her anything.
It's hard to keep relationships if you can't communicate. You need to tell her how you feel. Keep in mind that no one can MAKE us feel a certain way, we make ourselves feel that way.
Dropping hints is childish. She may have no idea you were offended or that you felt you were doing all the work. I'm sure she's not a mind reader. You shouldn't assume she can "read between the lines" either.
Good luck~
2007-03-21 21:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. You were friends, from what i gather. From what I see, it appears you were just casual acquaintances, because a friend usually shares feelings, secrets, and such. A friendship is a two way relationship, and an acquaintance is normally one sided. Let's really face it you weren't friends at all just casual acquaintances, and there's really no reason to fret. In all the time you had stopped writing to her I bet she never made any decent effort to get in touch with you, or did she? If she did not, then I suppose that you are barking up the wrong tree!! But hey, If she isn't really your friend, and you just happen to know one another, I see no reason for you to actually "break" up, it'll happen sooner or later.
2007-03-22 06:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People may not remember what you said but they will always remember how you made them feel. No point in chasing after them. They have already placed the damage on you and they dont live nearby to make up for it. I would simply get on with my life.
2007-03-22 05:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by J A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on Sydney.
2007-03-22 13:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋