How to tell parents??

Question

About a week ago I wrote how I got a negative result but come to find out I am pregnant..I was excited but now How do I tell my parents?? Im only 18 I know they love me but they are so strict I dont know if they goin to cry or scream..Is it best to leave a letter and go away for a few days to let them cool off?? Will it seem irresponsible? I know that once I tell them they are goin to state their opinions and not let me talk..What should I do?

Answer 1

Well you are an adult and they can't tell you what to do.

And also, just tell them and tell them that you're keeping
it and you will go find job as soon as possible..
and will support yourself and the baby....

If they yell at you or create drama, then just leave the room,
and sit on the sofa and read magazine, and ignore them.
Give them the silence treatment, Until they calm down...

If they put their hands on you, then call the cops.

If they have helpful advice such as how to get a job, then
listen...

Answer 2

Hard situation! But I would sit down and be straight forward with them. Seems much more responsible than running away and telling them in a letter.

Let the state their opinions, but make sure that they know what yours are. Stand firm in your beliefs and decision. Don't let them make you feel guilty or like a bad person. This is a scarey and exciting time in any woman's life.

Try to enjoy the rollercoaster. Good luck and Congratulations ;)!!

Answer 3

They will think more of you by telling them face to face. Let them know you had a negative result but you have now realised its a positive result. Try to be as grown up about it as you possibly can although I am unsure and unaware of your situation with the child's father....in saying that its hard to say what reaction you will get from your folks...I remember telling my parents when I was pregnant with my 1st - it was scary and I was married and 27!! Maybe you confess to your mistake , tell them you love them and hope that they can offer you as much love and support ( not just financially!!) because you want to share this special time with them as you grow emotionally with this little one....All I can say is that this baby is about to change your life F-O-R-E-V-E-R!!! There is no turning back.....is adoption an option? Good luck to you - be brave!

Answer 4

As calmly as possible tell them the truth. Tell them who the father is (if you know) and tell them your plan of how to take care of the child. They may scream and they may cry but they are your parents and they love you so after the emotions calm down they will be fine. Unless they are VERY angry don't leave because that probably wont help. Good luck!

Answer 5

Just like you said let them state their opinion and get it over with don't be childish about the situation and leave them a letter remember you want to show them that your strong and willing to take up the responsibility of a new little life so don't run away from the problem face it and roll with the punches. Good Luck K. :)

Answer 6

Well...the worst thing u can do is leave the letter and go, even for a couple of days...i mean...they're gonna get so scared that it would make things even worse. I think the best thing you can do is confront your parents as a grown/responsible person. Show them that your willing to have this baby and that your gonna need their support until your capable of getting your own place or even if you stay home with them.

Wish you luck!!
Be STRONG!!
You Can Do It!!
=]

Answer 7

you should face your parents and talk to them like an adult. if you go away for a while, your parents will be even more mad at you. be responsible (since you're 18), and reason, explain, and tell them what you're going to do about the baby. don't start this conversation at the dinner table. make sure none of your parents are busy or angry before hand, and have them sit down in a quiet place and them break the news to them. they'll going to know sonner or later. you HAVE to be the one to tell them.

good luck!

Answer 8

Take your boyfriend to the courthouse and get a marriage license. Then take him to your parents and tell them you are getting married. You may invite his parents in on the conversation. As a matter of fact, you'll save your parents a bunch of money if you marry at the courthouse by the clerk. Tell them you are going to do this very soon, you two have made up your mind. You don't have to explain your pregnancy if you handle it this way.

Answer 9

i know how u feel. i was 16 when i got pregnant. i have no mother she died when i was little and my dad was very strict. i feared he would try to make me have an abortion, so i never told him, or anyone in my family for that matter. my dad didnt find out til i was 7 months because i was so scared to tell him. he found my prenatal vitamens under my bed. my decision of not telling anyone was a bad one, but now i have my beautiful daughter who just turned 3. anyways, i would advise u to tell t hem face to face. dont write a letter. and who knows maybe they will be excited. my dad cried...but now he couldnt be happier. just sit down and ask t hem have u guys ever wondered what it would be like to be grandparents...my second pregnancy i waited to tell my dad until i got the ultrasound. i placed the pic on the fridge and he picked it up and said hmmm, boy or girl. lol. just tell them in ur own way, but i dont reccommend a letter.

Answer 10

Have somewhat of a plan before you tell them. It will also help to say "John and I are going to have a baby," as opposed to "I'm pregnant." The first way makes it sound much better. Also be prepared to answer questions about how far along you are, tell them you've decided to raise it yourself, where you're going to live and work, etc.

Having a plan will ease their fears.