i went to the park with her and her boyfriend and her and her nboyfriend dylan were kissing and hugging the whole time.....it was strange to me....but i wasn't surprised becaus ei knew she did that.
i really don't think she should be kissing and making out with guys at her age...what should i tell her???
2007-03-21 19:06:26 · 6 answers · asked by joe momma 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
confront her as a friend and explain your worried about her. at 12 i don't believe anyone should be kissing. However it is her life and if thats what she is going to do then there is not much you can do. but do tell her. she'll listen.
2007-03-21 19:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest and frank with you, I would say just tell her how you feel about the situation, and if she disagrees then she is going to have to learn the hard way eventually. It is perfectly natural for adolescent teenagers to start kissing, however I do agree that in today's society, sex (or sexual acts such as kissing) is often overplayed, and I believe that is where your friend stephanie gets her influences from.
It is very hard to discuss this matter because, essentially this is a moral issue that she must recognize. Some people feel that it is morally okay and indifferent to be "sexually active", while others feel that innocence should be kept for as long as possible. I personally believe that the people that say "sex is just part of nature" and that it is okay to be sexually active are just in denial trying to make an excuse for something they cannot explain. People, in general, have no explanation for why society condemns permiscuous an sexual behavior, therefore they have come to the conclusion that permiscuous, or sexually active behavior is okay. I believe it is morally wrong, and I would suggest that you just run that by her if you feel the same way.
Another suggestion to your problem is just to run the moral issues , as well as the psychological issues behind this behavior. Describe to her that sexual acts (i.e. kissing or holding hands) creates a connection with the spouse, and if she decides to kiss or get close to the wrong person, she may eventually suffer from psychological turnmoil due to attachment issues. Run by her that she should only kiss people that she sees a future with.
Another technique you could do is since your in middle school, you probably realize that no relationships last more than a week. Tell her its pointless to make out with a guy if hes going to dump her in a week.
2007-03-22 02:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck. She is going to be know as "easy" and a *lut and a *hore. Do you know what I am saying? That is the truth. She shouldn't have a boyfriend. She is WAY too young. If she is kissing at 12, she'll be pregnant at 13.
2007-03-22 02:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her mom. Stephanie could be setting herself up for some bad situations. Seriously. If she's already kissing and making out with guys, guys will think she wants to do more, and what if they force her? Tell her mom.....it's not tattling if you are protecting her.
2007-03-22 02:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Fine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very young, and as her best friend you should let her know that you feel she is too young to be getting that close to boys. Kissing is ok, it is what it might lead to if she is not careful.
2007-03-22 02:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by judles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advise her: you are right! It's too early!
2007-03-22 02:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋