he died november 19. i think it was so devastating because his accident was on the 18th....my birthday.
He was put on life support, but his mom decided to let him go. im still having a hard time dealing with it. Any advice on how to cope?
2007-03-21 18:52:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, allow yourself to greive. Do not expect that this is something that you will get over in a few weeks. It may take a year or even more.
Second, try making a memory book of your friend. Include pictures of them. Write down some little stories of some things that you used to do together.
Lastly, consider making a website memorial for them - or taking up a collection to start a scholarship in his name, or name a star after him or some sort of memorial. It might be something as simple as planting a tree for him. Think about it.
2007-03-21 18:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by katrinaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to cope is to collect what the person has left behind. Then absorb all the person has done for you and others. Try and deal with the good memories first, then move onto less pleasing memories. Eventually, you will apply what this person has done for you to the life around you. That way your life will never be without them. Good luck, we all get through it.
2007-03-21 18:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by charles_rainbuckets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep busy. wow, this must be hard on you. sorry to hear it. but keep busy. even if you don't feel like it, get out and get ice cream, or take a drive, do some art work in his name. you really have to keep in mind that everything happens for a reason and that if it didn't happen the way it did, the world would be in chaos. your friend is in a peaceful place right now and i'm sure he looks down on you and is proud. stay straight. be happy for him. and keep busy. it'll take time, and time comes faster than you think. it's always most painful in the beginning stages. good luck. i wish you the best. oh and if you could, confide in someone. or write in a journal.
2007-03-21 18:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people find these things affect them differently. Perhaps it would help if you sought out a Professional Counsellor or maybe a Telephone Counselling service. A counsellor can help you come to terms with it.
My wife is presently studying as a Counsellor and majoring in Grief and Loss.
2007-03-21 23:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Traveller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your taking the first step and reaching out to people to talk about it. Let it out. Cry whenever you have to. Be alone when you feel like being alone and talk to people about the devastating incident when you feel like it. Just don't bury the pain inside, that will make the situation worse.
Sorry about your friend. May he rest in peace.
2007-03-21 18:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost two very close cousins at the same time, two sisters in a car wreck.they were 26 & 27 years old.
it devastated me since they were very close to me.
Time dose heal all wounds, and I prayed alot.
and finnally came to relise on this world bad things happen to good ppl.
2007-03-21 18:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how you feel especially as the accident happened on your birthday. no doubt you will always remember him but you have to move on. remember all the good times you spent together and always kip them in ur memory.
but also remember that he will have loved you to move on. remember all ur plans together and try and acheive all those aims you both had so that he would be proud of you.
once in a while, let the tears flow... it helps.
sorry for your loss dearie.
2007-03-21 19:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by aminnylabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold a memorial party with friends in his honor. He would appreciate the gesture, would thank you from beyond, then will tell you to get on with your life.
2007-03-21 18:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by justdennis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. What you need is peace. Jesus said that I give you a peace that passes all understanding. It doesn't mean that you will not grieve, it means that after this tragic event you can begin to heal emotionally. Get to know him and you will see what I mean.
2007-03-21 18:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by ILLTOWN BRICK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that..Some things you can try are talking to people,crying (it's not bad..I know it doesn't help you bring him back but it let's you get your feelings out),doing things you enjoy,or writing poetry about it...I hope those help.
2007-03-21 18:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋