please help............?

Question

we have been married for almost 12yrs now my husband has a low sex drive what do i do he says no whenever i bring him inmood it has been 6 months now since he has avoided me i dont know what to do whenever i talk to him about sex he says no and i keep quiet .i am really confussed what could be the sudden change in him we were not like before please help

Answer 1

There could be a lot of reasons:

1. If he's over 30, his testosterone levels have dropped causing his sex drive to do so as well.

2. He's extremely tired; maybe he's working longer shifts or doing more at work than he used to do.

3. He's bored with your current sex life. Try something spontaneous, like you did when you were dating. Also, don't always try having sex when you go to bed; sex only in the bed gets quite stale.

4. He's not happy. Maybe it's with the relationship, maybe it's work or maybe it's a combination of everything. Counseling is a good option for this.

5. He could have depression. This is something to seek medical advise about.

6. He could be taking a medication that lowers his sex drive. If he is taking any meds, read up on their side effects and/or consult a physician.

7. A combination of any of the above could cause his low desire.

In order to find out why he could be rejecting your advances, talk to him in a non-threatening way. In other words, don't start playing the blame game or putting a guilt trip on him. He will immediately go into defense mode. Good luck. :)

Answer 2

I feel really bad about saying this... but it's true..
He's getting it from someone else.. men just dont not have sex.. sorry..
Men think about sex very often in a day...
The number one sign of infedelity is when you notice a sudden change in behavior sexually. It's a hard pill to swallow, but most men never stay 100 percent faithful to their wives. Is he home all the time? Does he work late hours? Does he have a job where it's flexable for him to not be there? Does he talk to you during his lunch? Have you checked his phone records or credit card statements?
Being sneeky will often get you the answers you are searching for.

Answer 3

Most men are afraid to seek medical attention for something like this. Think about it....there manhood is all wrapped up in how they can please a woman, how strong they are, how verile they are. Gently ask him to look into getting medical attention and let him know that you love him very much and you miss the closeness you once had. You may have to talk to him more than once so he knows how important it is to you. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Something is wrong with your husband. You need to approach him with support. Tell him that you need to talk to him about this. Most likely, he is having trouble performing and is embarrassed about it. Act as if this is a natural thing - because it is. It happens to most men at least once or twice. Tell him that you love him and you miss him and you find him very attractive and that you want to have sex with him. Also, encourage him to talk about his feelings.

Answer 5

Boredom - and it has nothing to do with you. Guys get that way. You could be a supermodel and eventually he will get bored. There are short term solutions, but the long term ones people on this forum don't like.

Answer 6

How old is he? He could be suffering from low testosterone. He also could have adult onset diabetes. I would visit a doctor first to rule out any medical issues before exploring psychological ones. They are more elusive and harder to treat.

Answer 7

Find another guy or you will be unhappy the rest of your life if you like sex, that bastard has no guts to tell you the marriage is over like many many man out there.

Answer 8

take him to the doctor or a check up and call the doctor on the phone so he can can him out good luck

Answer 9

You need to talk honestly to him ,and ask that question you think you know the answer to!

Answer 10

maybe he's cheating or maybe he is just happy being w/u and doesnt need sex. ask him about it.