This friend of mine just told me a few weeks ago that she couldn't hang out with me anymore because she is in love with me. I miss her and feel terrible, but what do I do? We've been friends for over a year. I had feelings for her when we first started hanging out, but then decided otherwise. I might have led her on... I've never met a girl like her before.
We were friends for about 3 months, went on a few dates, then told her I had more boyfriends then girlfriends - never told her I was flat out gay... but I am...
I haven't talked to her in 3 weeks. She's tried contacting me, but I don't respond.
What would you do?
2007-03-21 18:46:10 · 6 answers · asked by Green Grass 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well it might hurt but give her space and time but at the same time tell her the truth of how you really feel and tell her your feelings be honest because after all you guys are friends and a friendship never dies but if u fill it up with lies it will.. you also sound like u do like her but only you and your heart knows what your feelings towards her are but if i was you i would pick up the phone and meet up with her to tell her everything and how you really feel...
be honest and dont lie she is your friend after all.
2007-03-21 20:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by ratoncita1207 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the lines of communication open. explain to her what you feel and what you don't feel. be honest, brutally so if need be. if you felt that strongly for her a couple months ago it wasn't a fluke. a friendship can be just as intense and valuble as a romantic relationship and sometimes more fulfilling. obviously she wants to talk to you, so open the door. it won't be instant will and grace, but at least you won't regret not trying. i've been there, and hindsight is 20/20.
you can also use this as an opportunity to show her the things about you that you couldn't be upfront about before. she might be happier with you as a friend than she ever would have been with you as the reluctant boyfriend. its almost summer, make her your date to your local gay pride fest or if you are old enough, if she is ready, take her to a gay bar. conversely, be her wingman at the straight bar, her quality assurance agent, because if she liked you then you are already familiar with the type of guy she wants and you can keep her from dating caveman bob.
don't even try to be will and grace. be you and your friend against the world.
2007-03-21 19:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by angrypsycho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all RESPOND! You're answering rejection with rejection and that can only end in an ugly spiral. You say you miss her and imply you really care about her as a friend. Well, friends communicate. They don't sit at their computer and mope and pout.
It may not work out in the end, but at the moment you'd have to share equal responsibilty should that turn out to be the case.
2007-03-21 22:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by maxdwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like you like both men & women. You seem to care for both which means bi not gay! Give her sometime & you might be able t be friends. Good luck!!
2007-03-21 19:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space she needs. It's unbelievably painful I know. Tell her that you will always be there.
Can I be honest...you don't seem gay to me you seem bi. In fact from your message I get the impression that you are also attracted to her in some way.
Whatever you decide. Please, don't break her heart.
2007-03-21 18:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her decide when and if she is going to come back into your life.
2007-03-21 19:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋