need more sex?

Question

everytime i come on to my husband he turns me down and the few times we have sex, hate to say it he sucks. he used to smoke glass and i know that has effected him a lot the doctor even said it would but i cant take it anymore. this two minute every two to three weeks isnt doing it for me. i know hes not cheating on me cause hes always at home but i need to know what i can do to help him. ive tried sexy clothes and romantic things it just dont work. i dont wanna cheat on him but im running out of options maybe i should just call it quits. could someone give me some advice i love him so much.

glass isnt a type of weed it a meth.

for starters yes i mean glass, it a meth. its crystals that go into a pipe and you smoke it. theres white smoke that comes out. second yes i have talked to him. several times. told him how i feel and that i was gonna buy a toy. i even told him that i wanted to cheat on him. all he ever says is i will fix it but its been six months and im tired of talking.

Answer 1

Hello Hottie,
Well don't be surprised. Your not alone on this issue. Men with hold sex from women more often than women do it to men! That's a fact! They do this out of anger. Most of the time they are angry at us for turning them down. Its a catch 22 here.
I confronted my old man on this issue. I said "Only one of us is allowed to ask for sex in this here relationship." "I am sick of it!" So he still turns me down. So I told him this "Don't you ever try to touch me again!" I flat told him I would go get it else where if he was going to be this way. He didn't listen. So I sleep on the couch! LOL Let him play with Rosy Palmer for a while. He will get over this sexual frustration. LOL
It has been my experience that when sex is used as a weapon in a relationship. The relationship will eventually fail.
But the trick to keeping it from failing is: Make him come to you. Stop asking him. I did. I do not ask at all. I told my old man I would never ask him for sex again. I haven't. He is truly confused! lol

Answer 2

Smoke grass, not glass, right? Not sure if that has anything to do with anything, but here's my advice.

You make love with your mind. Somehow it seems the connection, the bond between you two, is growing tenuous. In other words, it is slipping away. Hate to say this, but your husband needs to take a little responsibility here, he's being a jerk. He may indeed miss you if you call it quits, and that may be what could put a spark back in the relationship, but it shouldn't have to come to that. You have made an effort to turn him on and he can't even see a good thing when it's standing right in front of him.

You love him, then shake some sense into him. Threaten to call it quits, is my advice. If he's willing to do that, I still don't think it's bad advice, because if it's come to that, dragging it out through the years will only break your heart. He's not the only frigging fish in the sea, know what I mean? Men don't realize how lucky they are to have a woman that loves them until she's gone. Then they cry like babies.

Answer 3

Have you tried talking to him? He won't fix something if he doesn't know it's broke so to speak. Tell him how much you love him and want to be with him ask him if he needs to talk about anything, maybe something is bothering him or he could be depressed, maybe you should talk to your doctor about your problem and convince your hubby to do the same. Don't cheat on the poor guy if you really truly love him,but at the same time if after talking to him things don't get better and you feel like you need to cheat give the man the decency of ending things because cheating on him and staying is certainly not going to resolve your issues it will only make it worse. Put the shoe on the other foot..if you did not want to have sex for whatever reason would you want him to cheat on you at put you at risk for sexually transmitted infections.Talk to him and don't try so hard to make him want to have sex, help him through this and you never know he might have some real medical issues that could help the situation.Good luck.

Answer 4

Get him some of those blue pills. If you really love him. then when he's sleeping tie him down so he can't move and tease him and then ride him and don't let him out.
Or when he is just sitting there whip out his c*ck and start sucking on him on whim... get him excited for sex.

Or be a woman and tell him youl ove him but you need to get laid more often and if he doesn't proved you are gonig outside the marriage. Maybe this is his is turn on to see you with another guy. I have read some things online here and you wouldn't believe how many guys find that a turn on.

Anyways before you cheat confront him about it ..if you truelt love him like you say you do...just don't go out and cheat.

Answer 5

Does he have a physical or mental problem now? Maybe he needs something to kick start him. I would suggest to you that you tell him what you need . If he cant or wont help you then I would tell him you are going to have to help yourself, go and buy a few different adult toys. Do it on your own time. Then walk around with a smile on for a day or two. Maybe viagra could help him. The biggest thing to do is talk about it and offer alternatives.
There are many of us that need a little help and 2 hours at 2 or 3 times per week is plenty. At least we smile here.

Answer 6

If you really love so much that you say you do, then give him the support that he needs right now. If he has medical or health problems, just let him recuperate and get better. You can't always be thinking about sex and it would be very selfish of you to just satisfy your own needs and not considering your husband's too. He has feelings you know. If you think you got a problem, just talk it over with the husband and both of you should share in the solution. Take care.

Answer 7

Dear hotty hot hot.
Best thing to do is tell him what you need from him.It may be the way you say it.Honey I would like to make love to you what is the thing you like the best. How you can help him to help you. I enjoy cunnilingus. A nice shower together some wipe cream and we are in for many orgasms . Ask him if he would be able to do that for you. Take a shower with him and try and get him going in the shower. Some guys worm up to porno. When all else fails you can have a 3 some. My X wife says if she does not get love she has a 3 some Me my self and I. I feel Sorry for you good luck you have a man make it a challenge and see what you can do for him to satisfy you.

Answer 8

I know how you feel! My husband turns me down a lot too, mostly because he is tired. I know he is not cheating (because I researched his activities) and has told me he is just very self conscious of his body. Maybe that is the same with your husband. In a way, he feels like he is not up to your standards. Try to talk to him if you can. Perhaps he has a medical condition inhibiting him from erections, etc.

Answer 9

Hey there, I know how you feel, have had down turns in my sexlife within my marriage too! It sucks when your advances are rejected, but it sounds like your partner is depressed. if he is on any anti depression medication, get him to go off them if you want to return to a normal sexlife. Try both of you taking deer velvet capsules and 5HTP capsules to help bring your bodies feel good chemicals back into balance. Try watching an erotic movie together (this always works for me!) let him know how sexy you think he is and how proud of him you are. Don't push it or moan about not getting any cos this will make it worse. Buy yourself a vibrator and use it when you feel the need and he isn't interested and let him know that you have one and that you are never going to leave him for another man. Men love to feel wanted and secure, but they hate a woman who is "needy" Good luck!

Answer 10

I'm 24 and I'm in a sex rut myself and I CANNOT STAND IT. I've been with my man for about 4 years and I feel your pain.. I love him and his sex is the best.. so yeah i want it every day.. but anyway...

Moving back onto you..
sex is a very important factor in a partnership. It's not just about getting off, but about deeper connections right? If you want to get off, just get a vibrator. Those things work amazing. Anyway, you love him very much, but he's not fulfilling your needs. It is NOT a free pass to cheat. Either get out or put up with it. Cheating will make you feel guilty and it will slowly kill your relationship.